should I be worried? we have been married for nearly nine years and recently he has wanted to have anal sex, he has always loved my bum but this concerns me, cause it's not natural. I should add that he once had sex with a bloke many moons ago (about 25 yrs ago) when he was on drugs and stuff.
2007-04-28 06:11:31 · 41 answers · asked by michelle w 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't be worried. It is natural and healthy to want to experiment within a committed, mongamous, and loving relationship. (i am a girl, btw).
A lot of men like it not just because its "different' but if you uses a condom all the time as contraceptive, he may be wanting it for the skin to skin feeling that he doesn't get with a condom.
Just relax and don't "plan" - let it happen. It may be something you like too, or you may not like it. It is okay either way. But try it at least twice because if you are worried or nervous you wll tighten up and it won't be nearly as pleasurable, just like vaginal sex. And it can be done just for a minute or two within a love making session and doesn't have to be the whole thing. It can be an extremely intimate experience.
Just don't have him go from anal back to your vagina unless he puts a rubber on to go back into your vagina. Or vice versa.
A lot of women think its taboo but just think of itas just another position to try.
For me, sometimes its not something i want that time or am too tense. but sometimes.....wow...thats all i can say.
2007-04-28 07:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Interesting about the bloke. Maybe after nine yrs of marriage your hubby is trying to get the flames a burning in the bedroom and what better way then trying a little kinky action?.
I think this is normal guys just like the pressure that the *** has and even though the thought of it with a guy makes most men want to puke. Doing it with your spouse well it is just another hot action with your mate. If you like it enjoy if not maybe you should tell him. Really though if it bothers you ask him why he wants to have anal sex with you?. I have been married for almost 8yrs and well enjoy doing that with the wife when she is into it. I'm one of those guys that thinks the whole man-man is disgusting!
God Bless and Good Luck!
2007-04-28 06:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I was going to tell you it's very normal for guys to want anal sex. It's a place where no other man has been and not to mention tight. When I got to the part where is has been with another man,well that puts another light on it all together.I'm
thinking he like it so much but knew what other people would
be thinking if he was fount out.Just because it felt good to him doesn't mean he is gay. It just means he likes anal sex.
If your not into it just say to him, Well let me try it on you,and if you like it then I'm sure I will to,I don't think he will bring it up again.
2007-04-28 07:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOST guys want to have, or try anal sex. It's something new or different. And as bad as this may sound, it's tighter. Guys like tight. And if he has always loved your bum, then I wouldn't worry about him swinging the other way. If you don't want to try it, then don't. If you are curious about it, then think about it. It can be good, if the guy is considerate of the fact that you are the one it could hurt if it is done wrong. I have tried it several times.
2007-04-28 06:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by sassynsweet1221 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you dislike anal sex then DONT do it! It is your body and you do not have to do this if you feel so disgusted and violated by it. You have two choices. Either tell him you hate it and am not prepared to do it again. OR
Take a few laxatives before he wants some anal and then let rip during the act...by following through! That should put him off for life!
2007-04-28 07:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think there is nothing wrong in your husband sharing with you his sexual fantasies. It's quite normal that after nine years he might want to add a bit of zest in his sexual life, and that he wants to explore more of the couple's sexuality and possibilities to add variety. Then it's all down to talking to each other, and if you don't like it, then you need to tell him; it's important that you both keep enjoying sex together.
2007-04-28 09:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by JusteMoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a way to get strep B, a harmless bacterica that lives in the colon. It's only a factor during vaginal childbirth. Doctors gives the baby antibiotics should you have it in your vagina. While anal isn't 'wrong' per say the rectum is a dirty place. To go from that to the vagina where sex is designed for and where the woman gets her pleasure isn't very loving.
Try inserting a clean (or gloved) finger into his rectum or read up on how to massage his prostate while you're having sex. That gives a pretty great orgasm for him.
2007-04-28 06:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Dawn-Marie 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Seems to me he still has homosexual tendencies. Might as well give him some azz or he's gonna get it from a man. I've been with my guy for 8 years and he's never even hinted about wanting to get in my booty. Maybe when we're in our 70's and the coochie is worn out, we can try it. But for now, hell no!
2007-04-28 06:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by not2nite 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
are you sure he doesn't want that bloke again and just reliving his old days. hell yeah i'd be concerned,but hey you knew he swung both ways when you married him. how do you know it was 25yrs ago. and if anal sex is uncomfortable or awkward then i wouldn't participate in it,but most of all you need to communicate your feelings to your husband. this forbidden in my religion. and it's nasty. i hate it when stuff has to come out imagine putting something in. ewwwwwwwwww.
2007-04-28 06:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He told you he has had sex once with a guy. I wonder if it is not more? He wants anal sex............ He has always loved your bum......
I am hoping you didn't marry him after he told you about his gay experience!!
2007-04-28 06:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋