my mom always thinks im doing bad things and never believes me. she always yells and she doesnt no me. my dad on the other hand we are really close and i visit him alot. he lives 5 hours away with my wonderful stepmom. he always understands and lets me do stupid stuff that doesnt matter. my mom always yells. i dont want to leave all my friends and start over. my mom gave me this choice before and i said ok i want to and she started yelling and then she gave me this choice again and i dont know wut to do. my sis and bro already live up there and love it. my dad and my mom both make a lot of money so its not like im going in or out of a trash hole. i dont want to hurt my mom tho but i just dont know. me and my mom ALWAYS fight. and ive never ever ever fought with my dad. my stepdad here is a brat and always lies and my mom believes him. i cant trust neone here but i can trust everyone up there. i need helppp in the only one in this house i asked my friends but i need a diff opinion!
2007-04-28 05:54:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hiya, i am real sorry to hear about this, all i can say is you have to do what you think is correct. if you want to live with your dad then you have to say so, and also make arrangements to see your mom often, after all she still loves you, you take real care of yourself, good luck, Pete
2007-04-28 06:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by pete m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what you should do but before you do anything you need to examine your role in the situation with your Mom before you decide anything.
I know you are going to hate to hear this, but you and your mom sound very similar. You say that she is always thinks that she you are doing bad things and never believes you. Seems to me in the little drama that is your life you have cast her as the villian. Isnt she, like you, living with a person that does not believe in her? Is she a horrible mom really, or is she just doing what she thinks is right to protect you? Is she doing drugs or drinking? Is she bringing strange men to your home? Does she neglect you? Does she beat you, verbally abuse you? If so, thats a bad mom, and you need to move. NOt permitting you do to exactly what you want when you want is not being a bad mom.
Back to the drama that is your life. Your dad has been cast as the Prince Charming. He lets you do things your mom wont. His wife is perfect whereas your step father is a brat. I am sure he is great but he is not perfect and I assure you if you go live with him you will find that out and you will have problems, its just part of being a family.
Get real and evaluate what you are doing to contribute to the situation and try to change that. Then if things do not improve move to your Dads. If you dont try to work on things with your mom you are just running away from your problems that is really not a good thing to do. And think of the long-term implications of what you are doing. You are mad at your Mom now but what are you expectations if you move to your Dads. Dont do things out of fear or frustration. Make a sound reasoned decision
Good luck
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2007-04-28 06:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little time to cool off might help the situation with your mom. The thing you need to remember is that there will be rules with your dad and stepmom, too. Take good care of yourself and don't be afraid to tell your mom that you would like to try living with your dad to see if it would make your relationship with her better. I understand that it is tough to see right now, but your mom really loves you. Sometimes people just need a break from one another is all. Hang in there and give your dad a call to ask him what he thinks of you going up there to stay for awhile.
2007-05-01 10:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by hannahthemovie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....nobody REALLY knows the depth of your relationship with your mom. You could be overreacting (I'm not saying you are) or your mom could be overreacting. Try talking to her first before you go move out....because the grass isn't always greener on the other side. And just because you're allowed to get away with stupid stuff, doesn't mean it's good for you. Then you'll grow up trying to pull that same stupid stuff and people are JUST not gonna stick around to experience it with you. so try talking to your mom first please. It's so easy to get mad and say you're moving to dad's, but just talk to her.
2007-04-28 05:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
live with you dad for the summer vacation and see what it's like. at the end of summer, in time to switch schools if you need to, decide where to live. maybe time apart will help your relationship with your mom.
2007-04-28 06:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go to our dads asap!! call your dad up and tell him i hate it here and i want to live with you!! thin set things up from there plus your mom cant make u stay with her or u can tell her yull tell the police if she tells u u cant go anyways... i think you should go moe in with your dad and have a happy life your too young to already have a bad life..!!
2007-04-28 05:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by becca m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋