See I have severe social anxiety & don't go out at all (except for Dr.s appointments and any other really important apptmts.) becuz of it. He does all the grocery shopping on his own. He's the only one that works outside of the home. I work part time for an at home call center. So anyway, I've had my anxiety for years. When we first met I didn't have any anxiety issues at all. In fact, I was really outgoing. We went out together to eat, shopping, etc. you know things normal couples do, altho we weren't actually a couple then. We were just friends. It was when we ran into each other 4 years later, that he asked me to be his girlfriend. At this time I already had my severe anxiety. He understood but it's been 6 years since we got together & I still have severe anxiety. He's the only one that goes out so it would be really easy for him to cheat on me. I've seen doctor's about my anxiety but nothing's helped. We just had a baby (our 1st in Feb) but I'm still afraid I'm gonna lose him.
2007-04-28 05:44:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just talk to him an ask him if he has been with you this long i dont think he gona leave you now ... he must love you to do all that he does....
2007-04-28 05:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by BOOBOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you keep going and finding a doctor that can help you with your problem. You are not just hurting yourself by not going outside but you are also hurting your husband and your child. Usually when a woman thinks her man is cheating usually her insticts are correct. If he is not coming home right after work and staying out really late then that is a sign. If he is not wanting sex as often and is out with his buddies the night before then that is a sign. There are so many signs that show us women something is not quite right. You need to continue seeking help for you anxiety so you can live a normal life with your husband and your child.
2007-04-28 12:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all just let me tell you that since you just had a baby, your anxiety will probably get worse due to your out of control hormones. As far as your man cheating, you just have to know how to read the signs. You know him and you know his mannerisms. If these things change dramatically, then I would be suspicious. But remember that you just had a baby so he may act differently because of that too. I would suggest just playing it cool. If he cheats, he's bound to slip up sometime. You could look up some of the tell tale signs of a cheater on the internet. Hope this helps.
2007-04-28 13:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by epic_80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, please take a deep breath and relax. You've just had a baby, so your hormones are really going crazy right now. Please pray, it is such a big help, It does me a world of good when I am anxious. If there is nothing that SHOUTS that he is cheating, just assume that he isn't. The main thing you need to concentrate on right now is yourself and your baby. Get as much rest as you can, and eat right. if your husband is doing something, it will be revealed to you in due time. Also, please don't go searching for clues on the internet...that will literally make you crazy! I have to add, it sounds like he is a good man who really loves you. Try and give him the benefit of the doubt.
2007-04-28 13:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by LaMariposa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO WAIT,,,, listen to this,,, ppl who have social anxiety will allways tend to make up things in their head, how i know ? i have social anxiety and i have panic attacks, yup im being honest here..... so in addition to that you just had a baby,, so it could be the after baby stress,,, its natural.... before u make any consclusions or start a fight,,, look for the signs,,, write in a pad ,,a check lists,,, but dont go and look for his mistakes ok...... only if you have all the lists then you can ask a dear friend to check him out,,,, until then please keep reality as reality and dont let your imagination get the better of you....WOW ha ha ha
2007-04-28 12:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey when i read your ? i just had to respond i though i was reading my own life story I'm not as bad as you are about leaving my house but i don't like to go out your feelings come from your heart so what is it telling you ? i had worries my self i just had to realize that my husband dose truly love me and i had to bring back the trust and if you cant find that within you than you need to have a heart to heart with your man!
2007-04-28 13:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by rebelicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen lady, you need to get a grip, nothing is more powerful than the human mind and will power, get it through you head you need to just straighten yourself out, then make it happen, if you are scared to go out, grow up and physicly MAKE yourself walk out the door. Stop malingering and start trusting your husband, it would be just as easy for you to cheat on him since hes out busting his butt all day to support you and you do nothing but sit at home, but has he accused you of it like you are accusing him of it? I didnt think so, now grow up and get a grip.
2007-04-28 12:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
is he showing signs? Weird phone calls, weird excuses for being out? If not...relax assuming will only make him do it and make you more nutz! Start by taking the baby outside in the yard...then to the street...baby steps for you and the baby!
2007-04-28 12:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by caffeinecowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him ... and get some counseling to help you handle the anxiety. You really need to get some help with this, or it will eat you alive!
2007-04-28 12:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by Karen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first get yourself help with anxiety
you need to get well for yourself and for your baby
everything else (your husband) is second
you will feel secure once you have overcome you anxiety
and you will
your missing the problem its not about him cheating its about you getting well you must try to get help to be independent
good luck feel better
2007-04-28 13:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by sarahd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋