people at school talk about me bc i am pregnant. the teachers look at me with disgust. i am pregnant bc i was raped. the male is in jail and i am thankful. i went through with the pregnancy bc i dont wanna kill the baby, it isnt right. my friend's never have me over bc i am pregnant and their parents think i am a bad example. only my parents and my sister know i was raped and it is too embarassing to tell anyone else.
2007-04-28 05:11:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
what should i do?
2007-04-28 05:30:45 · update #1
i am not in public school. i am in a private school, and i dont want to be taken out, bc i this is my 7th grade year and ive been at this school for 9 years and want to finish the 8th grade year,
2007-04-28 05:46:42 · update #2
Honey, you didnt actually ask a question. Do you need someone to talk to? I'm not as young as you, but I'm a mama. Also, one of my best friends was raped by her dad and had a baby at age 9. I would be happy to listen if you need someone to talk to. I understand what it feels like to get dirty looks. I was 19 when I had my baby, and people still gave me dirty looks and made rude comments. Feel free to instant message me at mrs.mama21@yahoo.com if you wanna talk. Take care honey. This isnt going to be easy, but you are doing the right thing. Besides the first friend I told you about, I also know another girl who had a baby that was from a rape. Her little boy is 8 now, and they are both doing great. Dont let anyone make you feel bad about keeping this baby, even if its a boy. If you DO have boy, its my advice to never tell him about the rape. You could just tell him that you made a mistake and experimented. But if you tell him that his daddy was a rapist, he might be so scared that he will turn out that way, that it will actually turn him into the racist that you and him are afraid of him being. Just tell him that his father was a wonderful man. No matter how bad it hurts YOU, it will hurt your child even worse. If he knows his dad was a bad man, he will think he is doomed to be a bad man too. You are very strong. Keep it up.
2007-04-28 05:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Bomb_chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for being able to come here and tell your story. You are a stong young lady and God choose you to be this child's parent for a reason. Try to join a young parents program where you can meet young mother's like yourself. You should consider going to an alternative school also, at least until after the baby is born. Don't give up! You will find new friends who won't judge you. I was pregnant in high school and i understand. My mother even treated me badly,she told me i would never get a chance to travel or do anything, but i held my head high. I am running a company I have been to 3 different countries and over 15 states. All for leisure. My little princess will be graduating from highschool has been accepted to college. Become a success and stay,strong and focused
2007-04-28 05:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by Cashay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you had to go through that. I think as embarassing as you may think it is your friends might be able to help if you let them know what happened. If they are any kind of friend they'll listen to what you have to say, and help you through it. If you talked to the school counselor maybe they could let the teacher know, "hey she had something unfortunate happen to her, cut her some slack". It's ashame the teacher have to act in this manner. They are not there to judge you. as long as you're a good student what's the problem. At least your actually going to school and continuing your education while you can.
I hope you can find the help you need and good luck with your baby. I'm sure he/she will be so happy to know that you love them regardless. Your a brave young lady!
2007-04-28 05:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not know what words of comfort that I would offer u
to heal the great gaping wound in your heart.
well, Iam a boy and I can not tell u wether is it good to have an abortion or not cuz I do not know what it feels like.
But about bieng raped then I must tell u that my deepest consoles are with u and u must know that there are a lot of ppl who will also care and like u.
Go to www.standupgirl.com
It is a wonderfull site for cases like u.
Them ppl who abuse u and make rude comments are damn bastards who do not care about anybody they do not have feelings.
Well as it is quite a sensitive matter like rape then I can offer u the best advice.
Hide it all up.
The time that u r pregnant stay at home and be homeschooled. Do not go out much.PLZ for the sake of your dignity do not go out much and mix with ppl much.
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After the baby is born then act as normal.And u can tell ppl that he/she is your sibling.
It would be nice if u would shift to another state.
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2007-04-28 10:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not, repeat NOT BE ASHAMED OF BEING RAPED. You did not ask for that to happen. And I must say you are courageous to insist that the baby live when most girl older than you would have opted out. My advice to you is that the next time a teacher looks down at you tell him or her that you were raped and have decided to give life a chance. Then rub your belly proudly, hold your head high and don't let those pompous fools keep you down. If you can survive something like that and still keep the baby, you deserve everyone's respect. And as for your "friends", they don't sound much like friends to me. Keep strong, baby girl!
2007-04-28 05:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by magix151 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know that it must be hard to talk or think about, but you are really doing a noble thing. You are standing up for what you believe in and your child is lucky to have a mom who values their life so much. Maybe you should talk to your parents about going to an alternative school until after the baby is born. I hope everything works out for you. God Bless and good luck.
2007-04-28 05:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Cori Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all. I am very sorry to hear that you were raped. You must be going through soo very much in your life. I do want to tell you that nothing is your fault so you really should not feel embarrassed about your situation.
As far as what everyone is thinking about you then you need to not let them bother you. I know it is hard but please try to hang in there. It's a shame that some people judge you and they don't even know you.
2007-04-28 05:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not feel shamed or embarrased for what happend to you.....THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT...and you are really brave to do this at such a young age when so many other people would have had an abortion......you would probably feel better if you could talk with a counselor or a preacher...they could always help you....remember God makes no mistakes! Pray and he will guide your steps!
2007-04-28 05:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by chickenorfish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the truth and the people that really matter know the truth. You get to hold you head up high because you know that you did the right thing. People are going to continue to judge you throughout your life and as long as you keep doing the right thing and living a righteous life, it will all work out. I know that it's hard but you get to smile because you are in the right. In other words let them talk. They don't know the situation so they're jumping to conclusion. that's their problem, not yours.
2007-04-28 05:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry that, that happened to you, ur almost finished with it now and u will soon have the baby and can be happy plus school will be out for the summer soon and ull be ok, im preg and 17 ive already had one misscariage, and im preg again i dont know what its like to be raped because the father of my baby we are gettin married but just keep ur chin up and be proud, andd ull be fine,
good luck and congradulations
jbsbabygirl
2007-04-28 05:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋