My husband told me a saying that work is like sex, and he said it's a common saying but I have never heard it before. He is really busy with work and we are havving very little... intimacy. I'm not going to lie, I am sexual person, maybe more then him. But, he is telling me to be patient with him and understanding. I feel like I have been patient for quite some time now...a really long time. I don't have a problem with understanding, I just wish he could understand how I feel about the situation too (which I don't think he does.) I have already told him how I feel, but things are not changing.
What should I do?
2007-04-28 04:52:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He works at home, so the only person at his "job" is me.
And he was a workaholic before, then got better, and now has become one again.
2007-04-28 05:01:33 · update #1
Make sure that he understands exactly how you feel, and if your needs are still not being met, find another way to satisfy them without hurting him untill things change. Relationships are truly work, but sex? I don't think so.
2007-04-28 05:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by Solo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband would never tell me work is like sex. I think your husband is a workaholic and it to caught up in his work. Was he a highly sex person before? If so then he might be getting sex with someone at his job. You might want to look more into this.
2007-04-28 04:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe in his case it is. I used to be in a situation where I had to do all the "work" to satisfy my partner in sex, then she would just go to sleep.
That's why I don't miss being married at all! It's way less high maintenance all the time, with little or no compensation for it.
2007-04-28 05:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you should do but when I read your "work is like sex" I immediately thought "it is always there". Why that popped into my head I don't know; it just did. Also, too much work makes Jack a dull boy. Maybe your husband is depressed and doesn't even realize it.
2007-04-28 04:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've not heard it that way, I have heard "Sex is like work". Anyway, he's a man, if he isn't wanting sex then something is going on. He's putting too much into his work like, something medical, or he's seeing someone else.
2007-04-28 05:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to do his manly duty and snap to it!
No seriously you need to sit him down and talk to him about this. If neither of you are getting what you want then someone is going to stray to find what they need. He needs to understand that he has to compromise as well. If you two cant work it out amongst yourselves then I suggest a couples counselors.
2007-04-28 04:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by brideofsatan_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means that either he hates sex, or REALLY likes work. i've never heard that saying. you two need counseling, or he needs to stop working so much.
2007-04-28 04:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is like work,,,,, when he comes home at the end of the day,, its just one more thing that someone wants from him.. not that he doesnt want or need it,,,
2007-04-28 04:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by cee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he need help, so you can look for another one. You know what I mean.
2007-04-28 04:59:45 · answer #9 · answered by luna. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just bepatient& you ll getyour reward.
Good luck & God bless your marriage
2007-04-28 04:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by kitycat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋