Basically ma an ma boyfriend hav been 2gether for nearly 2 years. We wanted to get married but being a asian our parents do not agree with our marriage (i'm muslim he's sikh). We ignored our parents and were stil 2gether secretly for over a year. But now his parents have arranged his marriage with a girl he doesn't even like and has recently gotten engadged to her!! He says he still wnts to see me evn wen he and we both get married (arranged) to someone. plz help should i carry on dis relationship??? :(
2007-04-28 04:36:41 · 19 answers · asked by mysterious honey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry for your situation, I know it is heartbreaking.
I wish that people were less prejudice in this world, as I
had gone through a similar situation.
I have to say that if he does not choose you and is engaged
to another woman, whether it is arranged or not....unfortunately he still chose his family over you. I would take this as a sign, he did not choose you. Remember we all have a choice of who we marry regardless of our parents. If he hasn't chosen you then, I know it hurts...but I would move on and find someone who thinks you are as wonderful as you deserve to be treated. You deserve to be happy and being his secret mistress will not make you happy. You will be more miserable in the long run, and if you love and respect yourself you will walk away now. It will only hurt for a little while in comparison of a life of being hurt everyday by being reminded, how he never chose you.
2007-04-28 04:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hon, I am sorry, but I think it is time to break it off. I know in your culture it is very hard to go against family. Whether or not he likes her is not even the issue. He is simply going to follow tradition and honor his parents. However, having a wife and letting you be his mistress is not honorable. So let him go.
Consider the possiblility that you will want your husband to honor you. Will your actions gain his respect, or are you putting yourself in a position where you will never have a chance to make your marriage work when the time comes?
Tell your boyfriend the only thing to do is to give his marriage a chance, without third party interference, and that you want to do the same for yourself. Then say good-bye.
2007-04-28 05:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST how old are you? If your 25 tell him You have a job in another city and there nothing to keep you here. Younger there are a lot of things you should try first. Like a job, home,savings, and life. You should work some place for at least 5 years to save money. Have a home of your own. Decorate it, enjoy having a lot of fancy parties. Don't get involved in relationships that hold you back. Go on a girl vacation or cruise. Live before your get stuck.enjoy your single life before marriage. Then after your marriage do a lot of different things to enjoy one another.
2016-05-20 23:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to carry on with this relationship would be a waste of your time, and keep u from finding your own true love. if he is going to marry the other girl, there is nothing u can do, but if u see hi on the side, it will only bring u alot of heartache in the future. end it asap if u are smart. why play second best, why be the low man on the tot um poll? u deserve a husband too, and if it can't be him, don't see him anymore.
2007-04-28 06:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you learn how to write english and then get with a man with a back bone who will live his own life and you should do the same. If your worried about your parents response to anything you do, then your probably not old enough to be in a serious relationship including marriage.
2007-04-28 04:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think instead of asking others,u should ask this ques. to urself. marriage is not being with one other for yrs .without understanding & love marriage would die.
Ask ur boyfriend what he says finally?
iam boy & iam also in love with christian girl from the past 7 yrs whom i am not sure her parent will agree to our marriage,even i havn't seen her from the last 2yrs as she went fro her further studies but i'll still work hard to get her by convincing both our families..,...I LOVE HER......
if ur boyfriend really loves u then he would never take his step back or say that "its not possible" .......i think he is just making fool of u..he just want to use u even after his marriage, by doing this he would ruin both of urs & his own engaged girl 's life........ after all life is urs if u both love eachother then it is very important to go & clearly ask ur both families to agree..
b'coz blessing from ur families r very important then only u both can live a life happily.....
ALL THE BEST
2007-04-28 04:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by smartboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if you are both getting married to different people, you should not carry on the relationship.
2007-04-28 04:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and him should run off somewhere together and get married take off now before its to late... if he loves you and u love him you will risk the parents being angry ..your grow people the parents will have to live.
2007-04-28 04:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by brittany_glid1890 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there's nothing you can do. You'll end up looking bad in this situation. Move on for the sake of your dignity.
2007-04-28 04:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sick. Good on him. Plenty more muslems in the world. Go next door. I bet you have some luck there.
2007-04-28 04:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋