i was divorced last sept from a relationship that was 10 years. she started dating as soon as i moved out. has been with 3 or 4 men since then. found out that she was dating someone for 2 months and that she was 7 weeks pregnant. what a slut! i dont want to know anything about her and i dont want to see her. why does this bother me so much? i cant have kids myself cause of a syndrom. and i found out that she wont have kids with me even if we got one somehow. i dont know what to think
2007-04-28 04:06:25 · 12 answers · asked by bobmelweber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im not jealous. i have a girl. and getting married in sept. and she will have many kids with me
2007-04-28 04:12:34 · update #1
It hurts because you are personalizing her aparent lack of concern for the loss of your relationship. This may be her way of dealing with it, and that she was bothered more than you know. Or, she may have been just throwing herself into the singles scene to make up for lost time while being married. In any case, her hang-ups appear to be many. You are right to not want to know about her or see her. Just keep on that track and it will eventually bother you less. Don't try to take emotional responsibility for her actions.
2007-04-28 04:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by joeiselvis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ten years is a long time. You have a lot of history together. You're not gonna get over her in a few months. It will take longer. To be honest, you may never get over her completely.
It hurts you to see that she has a life after "you". Stop thinking about what could had been because you're only hurting yourself by doing that. The fact that she's pregnant now, but didn't want kids with you it's really bothering you and I get that, but maybe she didn't plan on getting pregnant. Whatever the case, you both have seperate lives and you need to move on. When you feel ready, start dating. Eventually you will find a good woman. Someone who is worthy of you.
2007-04-28 11:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Doll 101 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very, very lucky. Most states have a law that divorces are not final for 180 days, or six months. This is done, to insure that the woman is not pregnant, at the time of the dissolution of marriage. If she becomes pregnant during that time, the court says that you are responsible. Since the time has passed, you cannot be tagged for child support. As to her sleeping around, I felt the same way, when my ex did the same, and I found out. Then I realized that she had the same right that I had. I exercised my rights, and she did to. I got over it, and you should as well.
2007-04-28 11:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The operative word here is divorced. Of course it hurts. 10 years is a long time. But you've got to move on. Trust me, start dating and let nature take it's course. As soon as you find the right person, you'll get over the ex in no time. Good luck guy. Get out and have some fun.
2007-04-28 11:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by joe v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 years of relationship is quite a long time man and she had been dating after divorced. It is quite obivous that she just dont love you anymore, i might not know exacty what the reason. I can see that you still care about her after all, but this is life, pls pull yourself together and dont think too much (I know this is hard) maybe a better girl will come your way somehow.
2007-04-28 11:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by viva 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to move on. Luckily you are divorced and you can find a woman who truely cares about you. You may find a woman who wants to have 10 kids you. Keep your chin up.
You know the old addage: You can't make a hoe a housewife. So wish the other guy luck and walk away.
2007-04-28 11:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mary A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it was for the best that the two of you didn't have kids. the hard part is not thinking about it. once it is locked in, it is the hardest thing to let go of. we all have to deal with pain and that sucks. its what we do with that pain that makes us or breaks us. the only thing i can give you as advice is don't let the anger and hate fester to long, cause there might be that someone for you watching and you don't want them to see that side of you. let them see the real you.
2007-04-28 11:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by vladshouse1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know she w't have kids w/ you .... sounds like she almost did.... Did she loose it or did she abort it ?... im so sorry .. maybe the baby wasn't yours and if she had 4 men in 2 months you should get rid of her!!!.
2007-04-28 11:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by quen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too good for her. Just chalk it up to a learning exprience and find a new girl friend.
2007-04-28 11:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. sounds like she was just on rebound. That sucks, dude. Sorry to hear that.
2007-04-28 11:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by BamBam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋