My friend wants to throw a baby shower for me. I wanted to throw one for her. lol. We're 5 days apart and both having boys. (YAY I found that out yesterday). Is it ok to combine baby showers just for friends? I figured her family could have another get together and so could mine so they wouldn't have to worry about getting me anything and vice versa. Another question I have is where we live it gets HOT in the summer. So is a baby shower at 6 months too early? I'm 20 weeks and 3 days right now. Is all that just too tacky??
2007-04-28 03:37:31 · 7 answers · asked by Nicole 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Congrats to you and your friend! I say, do whatever you guys want to do, don't worry about people thinking it's too early or whatever... i say have fun while you still can and while your not waddling about so much and dying from the heat! Girl i'm only going to be about 6 months in the summer (i'm due in November, and trust me, New Jersey is gonna have a HOT ONE this summer! I say do whatever you guys feel is good! It should be a lot of fun! God Bless and Happy Healthy Pregnancy to you both!
2007-04-28 03:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Mama of One♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A combined shower sounds like a lot of fun HOWEVER there is just one thing that you may want to concider....
Not all YOUR friends will be close with her and not all HER friends will be close to you which means that they may not want to buy a gift for the person that they do not know well and it may put them in an awkward position feeling like they HAVE to get a gift for BOTH of you!! So I would make it CLEAR to those that arent friends with BOTH of you that it is NOT necessary to bring a gift for both of you... or you may want to concider having the shower a few hours apart!!
Heres an idea... if you have a "combined shower" have hers at around noonish (lets say) and invite mostly HER friends at that time.... then have YOUR friends come around 2ish. The friends that you BOTH have can come for the entire time and whomever else WANTS to stay the entire time can also! That way its ON the same day and its somewhat combined but there is no pressure to buy BOTH of you presents if the friend is only close to one or the other of you! Does that make any sense??
As far as having a shower at only 6 months.. thats not a big deal at ALL!! Especially if you already know the sex of the baby (if you are in fact planning on finding out). But if you DO want to "wait" for the shower... what we did w/ our 2nd baby (who was due in August... but born at the beginning of July 6 weeks early) was have a POOL PARTY!! :) There were MANY reasons for this... first of all we called it a "baby sprinkle" b/c it was our 2nd and we didnt need any of the "big" items but we did need GIRL things! We had a pool party so that I could stay COOL by wading in the water, my sons could play in the pool and it could be a FAMILY event instead of just a usual shower. We had MANY friends w/ little ones and wanted more of a celebration of the new life about to come into this world then a typical "shower!" It was really great how it turned out! :)
I hope that I helped at least a little and CONGRATULATIONS!!
2007-04-28 11:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kat J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy. How fun to go through this at the same time as a close friend!
Let me caution against a double baby shower. Someone threw one for me once. A couple of things to consider: guests who do not know *both* of you well will feel awkward. They will feel awkward about whether to purchase two gifts, and one person may get more stuff than the other. Also, most people will not double their gift budget - they will still spend $30, but they will purchase two $15 gifts, one for each of you.
Also, double showers can drag out for 4 or 5 hours while both moms to be open gifts, and your guests will get antsy while the mom-to-be they don't know as well is opening gifts. And finally, if you are giving her part of the shower, and she is giving your part of the "co-shower," to your guests it will basically feel like the two of you are throwing your own baby shower and that is viewed as a solicitation for gifts.
Personally, I think there a million reasons why it would be more fun to throw two separate baby showers. Each of you will enjoy the day more, and there will be less chance your guests will feel uncomfortable. The two of you as well.
Just my opinion! Whatever you decide to do, I hope it's wonderful! Congratulations on your new son!
2007-04-28 16:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Diaper Cakewalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a great way to celebrate together! I was 8 months pregnant at my last baby shower and was miserable!!!! If I had the choice I would have had the shower while I was still loving the fact that I was pregnant and not wanting the baby out right then!
Congrats to you and your friend! Good luck to both of you!
2007-04-28 10:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a great idea! Six months is definitely not too early, especially since occassionally a woman delivers a little earlier. Also it's more comfortable for mom to have a "social outing" when she's 6 months along instead of right at the end when she's just about to pop!
Congratulations, by the way.
2007-04-28 10:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend doing them seperately! Just so it will be easier and then you can coordinate each others. Trust me I am in Florida and I am 8 months pregnant and i know what you mean...it it HOT! But its not a bad thing. I would just have them seperately do 1 with all your friends and family and then another with hers just so it doesnt get out of hand with presents...your blessed to have a friend pregnant the same time with you! good luck!
2007-04-28 11:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by Kablina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not tacky at all. A combined shower sounds fun. You sound like nice people, I know some people who would insist that it be "all about them". Its nice that you guys can share the moment. 6 months isn't too early. Have FUN!
2007-04-28 10:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by SueWithTwo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋