2007-04-28 02:41:43 · 23 answers · asked by vivi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You obviously do not know how he is feeling and vice versa. You don't seem to be communicating, because you should know the answer to that question. This is the person you've been having a relationship with for 6 years. You should both know every single thing about eachother.
A marriage is making a commitment to spend the rest of your life together, because you are in love and you could never live without that person. You should be so close, knowing eachother feelings and working together to plan a future.
When people get married for the wrong reasons, that's when you will find out everything. Then if there is something you don't like, or disagree with that's when the fights begins and the divorce begins.
You have to tell him how you feel and find out why he never mentioned getting married. Just ask him. It's not personal, you have nothing to hide with the person you make love to.
Excellent that you've been together for 6 years, but if your younger than 25, just stay single and enjoying life. Don't be in a rush. Also if you do decide to get married, don't get pregnant until you know what it's like to be alone with just your husband. Good Luck.
2007-04-28 03:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you read the Rules by Fein and Schneider.. You should also ask him what his future plans are in life. Is he looking forward to creating a family and having a wife? Or does he not want kids . . . a contract . . . doesn't have enough money and all the other excuses that men can come up with to stall. This may be all he can give you and if you want to get married, he may not be the one to do it. 6 years is a very long time unless you are in your early twenties. If you are over 30, I would start looking elsewhere, since the prospects for marrying this kind of guy are slim. It is convenient for some men to just have a girlfriend forever, but that is not something you should allow. Do not give all of yourself to some boyfriend, because he can leave at any moment. If he wants you bad enough, he has to marry you. If he doesn't really want you that bad, then find someone who can give you the relationship you really desire. I'm not saying leave, but think about this stuff more deeply and make some careful moves regarding this questioning.
2007-04-28 11:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by oh really 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's going to change if you get married? Really? That's the first question you need to ask yourself. And why do you want to get married? That's the second question you should ask. Then here's the most important question:
If he doesn't want to get married (ever), what are YOU going to do?
If being married is REALLY that important to you, just sit down and have a discussion about it. I'd suggest writing down all your feelings, thoughts and emotions first. This way you can get all the resentful feelings out of the way.
But don't drop hints or ask him to marry you. Just ask him if marriage TO YOU is important to him and express your desire to get married. Be sure to listen to him. Take his feelings for what they are. If there's more behind his answer and he doesn't share, that's his fault.
Then based on what he says, you need to make a decision. If he says he loves you but is never interested in getting married, there's your answer. And you need to live with that. Or not. The choice is yours.
Good luck.
2007-04-28 10:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by jacq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even know if he wants to be married, like that old saying why buy the cow when you get the milk for free. If you really love him and the feeling is mutual then if you talk to him about it, it will be something that comes naturally. But I wouldn't ask him.
2007-04-29 00:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some states, having lived with him that long gives you a common law marriage already.
Ask him. Obviously if you've survived six years, you'll survive more. It's better to commit now than risk never knowing if you'll both be faithful to each other.
2007-04-28 09:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by martinlh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
six years is a long time to wait, u need to find out where he sees himself in a year or so, and if he sees himself married to u? if he doesn't want to get married, u may need to move on to someone else who wants the same things as u do in life.
2007-04-28 14:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 yrs! What are you waiting for?
He probably already considers you married.
2007-04-28 10:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're pathetic if you wait a moment longer. You need to know what's going on with this relationship NOW - so that if it isn't going to wind up as you desire, you can clear the decks and strike out for new pastures before your twilight years! So yeah - you ask him! And be prepared for rejection...
2007-04-28 09:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feck NO, 6 damn years. He must be a mum's boy or rich and afraid to lose money. Please don't ask him...You need to be a woman, get mean on him, damn, are you sure you are a woman? Most women I know would not let a guy get away with that. They woulda had him down the aisle 3 years ago.
2007-04-28 09:46:41 · answer #9 · answered by sankyfinatra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you know he will answer yes or not. Usually after six years, you should know a guy isn't probably interested in marriage, or he would have approached you already.
Girl, you have waited about three years too long... I wouldn't have waited six... and still wondered about it like you....
2007-04-28 10:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋