My sister is 35, married, and has been trying for years to get prenent. The problem is she isn't produceing eggs or something I'm not sure I don't really ask because I know it hurts her. I'm 20 and just had an unplanned pregnency. I know it must seem unfair to her because shes the "good" one, shes the married one and she deserves a child. She is so good with my son and I know how much she loves him and it means a lot to me to know shes there for him. I also want her to have a child because I know how amazing it is being a mother and I can't see her go through life with out experiencing it. So what I want to know is if any one knows about how much this will cost and how we get it done. Maybe someone has been through this? Please help us thank you.
2007-04-28 01:38:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
We live in Ohio
2007-04-28 02:32:31 · update #1
Just ignore all those unhelpful answers. I think it is a really lovely and loving thing that you are thinking about. At 20 and having conceived a child with no problems and a healthy pregnancy you would definitely be able to donate eggs.
I have heard that donating eggs isn`t that simple....you have to take hormone injections before and go into hospital to have the eggs removed.....
I think you need to sit down with your sister and tell her everything you just told us....all of it...especially how you feel if must seem unfair to her.
Donating eggs may be the answer or it may not be.......your sisters doctor is the one who would know. Even if you don`t end up donating your eggs....hopefully you and your sister end up talking and getting closer.
2007-04-28 07:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by psychokitty 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I strongly feel you shouldn't donate eggs to your sister. Why? Because if they conceive a baby it needs to be the baby of her and her husband.
Having you donate eggs is sort of like biological adultery. It is against nature. A baby should be conceived through intercourse between husband and wife. End of story. It's basic biology. Anything which goes outside of this is unethical and unnatural and is like "playing God."
Just because it is scientifically possible doesn't mean it's right.
Please don't misunderstand. I think it's totally awesome and big-hearted of you to want a baby for her. I know she must be suffering. But maybe God has other plans for her. Maybe she will get pregnant. Or maybe there is an amazing child just waiting to be adopted into their home. Whatever His plans, they do not involve another woman. This is between her and her husband.
I hope my answer helps you to see it from a different perspective. Two of the best things you can do for your sister are to PRAY hard for her, and also to be available to talk to her if ever she needs you and find out ways you can support them.
By the way, I have met many couples that took years to conceive (for one couple it took 6 years) but after their first child they had many more. So you never know......
Just let nature...and God...do their thing.
Bless you
2007-04-28 04:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your sister about this? It’s a generous offer but how would she feel you having a biological child with her husband? This kid would be your child's natural half sibling. I know that she’d be the one to raise it, carry it, and be the mother but still …… your sister might not be comfortable with that, or even your brother in law.
If you sister didn’t want to go with your egg, they could always just go to the egg bank.
As far as Cost I believe you get paid to donate, but the people getting the egg will have to pay a fee. Along with the fee of fertilizing the egg outside the body and then putting it into your sister to see if it takes. They’d have to pay for each round (if the implantation doesn’t take). You’d have to take hormones to harvest your eggs.
2007-04-28 09:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 17:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by claypoole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some websites that might help, I don't know about this personally but hopefully one of these will help. And I might be able to find better info if I knew what state you lived in.
http://www.health.state.ny.us/community/reproductive_health/infertility/eggdonor.htm
This second website would be helpful more for your sister to read if she can, I'm pretty sure there's no cost to you for the donation (you might even get paid, I'm not sure) but your sister and her husband might/probably will have to pay.
http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/preconception/fertilityproblems/4098.html
If this doesn't appeal to her, she could always look in to adoption. There are so many children without parents in the world!
Hope this helps you guys out & good luck!
2007-04-28 02:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by ohsnapbeth 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even thought it might hurt your sister. You might want to ask her first if she would want this. how about after you do everything she doesn't?.
Not to be rude. But God knows those that will be good mothers'. and it's weird. You see in the news' those mothers that kill their kids and etc. And then we see those that want to have kids, and can't. It's very sad.
Talk to your Sister and Husband. If she likes the idea...look for the information...talk to a doctor.
Best Of Luck
2007-04-28 02:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by latinapr1229 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sorry i cant really help withthis question but i want to say that i think it is great you want to help yoursister, it is the most thoughtful and unselfish thing you can do and it would meant he world to her.
good luck i hope it all works out for you
2007-04-28 02:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
take them out of the carton and drop them off at her house. If you don't own a car, use the bus or call a taxi. Your welcome.
2007-04-28 05:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by jhfromuth 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you want all the credit
2007-04-28 01:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by lucasone 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋