Im 18 and consider myself straight, I have a boyfriend and love him very much. I have no desire to be in a relationship with another woman but I find them very sexy and enjoy watching lesbian porn with my boyfriend, he of course it over the moon with this but secretly it bothers me a bit am I a lesbian in denial?
2007-04-28 01:28:36 · 33 answers · asked by keeley 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
*is over the moon*
2007-04-28 01:29:54 · update #1
so he should be
2007-04-28 01:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Richard H 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋
No, you're just curious. A lot of people have times of gender-confusion and wonder what having sex with someone of their gender would be like...however, thinking and fantasizing about it doesn't mean that you would necessarily actually like to do it, you might find yourself in that situation and discover it's a real turn-off. That's why porn films exist, so that people can feed their fantasies without really doing anything.
As far as finding other women sexy goes, you may be turned on by attributes you wish you had yourself....big breasts, a better shape, long hair or legs, whatever. Sort of wish-fulfillment. Finding other women sexy can also mean you find yourself sexy and attractive, you have a positive self-image of being a woman.
Don't worry, there's nothing "wrong" with you. I'm sure you'll get posts here encouraging you to drop your boyfriend and "come out" as a lesbian, but that isn't the point. If you were gay you wouldn't enjoy sex with him. You're just curious, wondering if you've missed something, etc.
2007-04-28 01:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by anna 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Been there, done that, got the T-shirt and the scars too!
I took it one step further and brought a similar minded GF into the relationship. Needless to say it tore the relationship (and our hearts) apart. I thought something was going on between her and my BF when I wasn't around and couldn't cope, he told me later her couldn't cope with the whole thing even though he seemed OK at first.
Fantasy is a wonderful stimulant. If you want to end the relationship with BF and find a girl (not an easy task), then you know you're a lesbian. You may be a bi, but you're with someone, no matter what your preference your'e committed.
Enjoy the fantasy together, it's OK. Women KNOW how to touch women, same as men know how to touch men, imagining being touched by someone else, the way you touch yourself is part of that fantasy. Don't bring it to life. Don't worry, don't feel guilty, enjoy yourselves and think nothing more of it ;-)
2007-04-28 01:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by SEJ71 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a lesbian. Every single person male or female at one time or another wonder what it is like to be with the same gender. If they say they don't they are a dang liar. Some people act on it some don't. There is nothing wrong with you. I am sure the stage will pass.
But even if you want to experiment with this to find out what your true feelings are about another women then talk to your bf. Maybe you 2 can bring another female into the bedroom and see how it goes.
It might just be a stage or you are bi. There is nothing wrong with it.
2007-04-28 01:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lurinda 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. Don't try to analise this, just enjoy it - guilt free. Just because you enjoy watching lesbian porn doesn't necessarily mean you are a lesbian. Don't worry about it. Most people aren't 100% gay or 100% straight they are somewhere inbetween. Just go with the flow. I don't know anyone male or female who wouldn't be turned on by lesbian porn. I am in a lesbian relationship but I can still get excited by watching heterosexual porn.
2007-04-28 05:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe the appropriate term for what you are experiencing is 'bi-curious.' You are in a happy relationship with your man and are curious as to what it would be like with another woman. I don't think that you should let it bother you.
Besides if you were a lesbian, you would be romantically and sexually attracted only to other women.
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2016-12-29 12:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you're suppressing your same-sex desires and you really are bisexual and could be in a relationship with another woman, or you're bi-curios and your interest just stops at fantasy. You've got to figure out for yourself where you fall.
2007-04-28 02:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal trust me i think everyone goes through these phases,i prefer to watch lesbian porn women have better bodies for a start lol and i am straight ,my sister called me disgusting when i told her i preferred to watch a film with women rather than men but all my mates are the same too,watching a guy having sex on tv doesn't do anything for me,i could have a mirrored ceiling to see that when i go to bed,so it's just something different i gues.s
2007-04-28 01:58:26 · answer #9 · answered by alittleminx01 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Denial
2015-10-25 21:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt mean you are lesbian - it doesnt even mean you are bi curious
it means you are normal
most women have fantasies about being with another woman
you may just enjoy the fantasy or idea of it but you may also want to physically do it
it doesnt mean you are lesbian - but if you want to try it why not go for it? just make sure you are emotionally able to deal with being with someone other than your boyfriend who you love
2007-04-28 04:20:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋