The Last Time I Hit A Woman: What Do You Think of This Story?

Question

http://www.responsibleopposing.com/comment/lasttime.html
Is it correct in its characterization of most women's behavior and have you had similar experiences.

Did you people even read the link!? The kid was 7 years old. Also, the story is not solely about spousal abuse.

Answer 1

You know..... i've had similar experiences as well.
When i was younger, my mom used to discipline me by hitting me when she felt i had done something wrong.
i was, and still am a very placid person, you might even say emotionless sometimes.... but i almost lose it at one point of time by coming close to actually throwing a chair straight at her. This, despite her verbal abuse that lowered me as a person, hurt my self-esteem, as well as the physical abuse to top it off. And, the whole discussion was dedicated to telling me i was wrong. Enlightening huh ??
Right now, i dont really care if she hits me one or another.
I wouldnt really care if i had her respect or trust for me, because i had/have none left for her.
Yes i can understand her reasons for disciplining me, yes i still love her as a mother, but i dont have half as much respect for her as i do for my dad.

In a way, i believe i do understand what the story is trying to impart.
It is not just about logicality, spousal abuse, or mommy discipline. I do not even think it is violence.
It is about the inherent mindset of people that women are somehow less accountable than men for their actions.
It should never be that way, yet it is sometimes or often condoned by the men around you.

And just what would this imply?? Respect or Disrespect??

Answer 2

I found this very interesting. I'm sure some women are like this, but not all. I think it comes down to guilt, if a woman feels angry and cannot control her emotions she then feels guilty. Guilt is a horrible feeling and she then wants someone to comfort her and take that feeling away. I know I have felt like that on occasions - definitely not logical I know. The bit about women not being logical when emotional is very true. I guess a woman who does not normally get emotional at all could be angry that someone had caused her to lose control.
As for the fairness thing, I think maybe a lot of women who hit men probably want the man to hit them back, so they don't have to feel guilty any more. I'm not an abusive woman but I know lots of women have problems with guilt. None of this answer is very PC I'm afraid, but it's what I think.

Answer 3

MOST women's behavior? As in MOST women verbally abuse and strike their kids? No, I don't think so. Not most of the mothers I know. But some? Yes unfortunately...and it certainly happens more often than it should. That kind of treatment of a child is VERY wrong, and, as evidenced by the response of the child, only teaches the child that a violent response is acceptable. That is very sad.

I think it also demonstrates (whether fiction or not) that violence is learned in the home, as a child, whether it be to act violently, or accept violent acts committed against you. It explains why men and women might accept the violence they are subjected to in a relationship.

Answer 4

"I have observed this under a variety of circumstances and can only conclude that it is true."

NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

I beg of the forces that be (God, Allah, Buddha, Marduk, Zeus, etc...) that this is proven entirely incorrect in my time on this planet.

But I'm not holding my breath.

In any event, I would not say the story is typical of most women's behavior. Those that DO behave this way have problems and should be punished in some manner or another.

I have had -similar- experiences, but I was certainly more at fault in those cases than the author seemed to be.

Answer 5

Firstly...a great article.

I am, however, a little disturbed at the behaviour of the father, and the lessons he taught his son. Even though he admits to understanding the lack of 'political correctness' in his father's words and thought processes...it clearly left an impression. The writer of this article is going through his life with an impression that women are not logical...and he expects none from them. He even expects the irrational violence and lack of responsibility for it. That, I would suggest, is why he ended up with a woman who displays those characteristics. If that is what you expect from a woman, or all women, you will not run from one who displays this kind of behaviour.

There are many sick and emotionally weak people in this world...men and women both. But expecting that ALL are that way will lead you straight to the door of one...and you get what you expect! And will just have to live with it. I suggest that his father set him up for a very unhappy life...and it would appear that's exactly what he got.

Answer 6

my bro was beaten by his wife for over 15 years. he stayed with her for the sake of thier kids. he was taller, stronger etc than her but he never once retalliated against her. she used to use thing to throw at him as well as hitting him.
my bro does not allow his children to show any kind of aggression and will not condone any type of violence no matter what.

personally i believe that theres a lot of men out there that are beaten and that there should be more done to help them, it annoys me when the media only focus on the women victims.

i dont believe hitting a guy/ woman its the right way to deal with things. its so much easier to walk away, cool off then talk about it. i would never even consider hitting my husband, and i know he wouldnt ever hit me.

why hurt someone you care for so deeply???

Answer 7

It was honestly a very moving story so full of emotion. The boy reacted in a way only possible to him at the time, he was over taken by emotion, did the natural thing any boy would do; only this time he forgot it was his mom. Perhaps yes I have had a similar experience, yet not to the extent I was ever hit back, still I took the blame unto myself. After all I could have chosen to act better myself. I never want to be the type of woman who is going to blame anyone else; I strive to only take responsibility for my own actions; I strongly strive to continue doing that. I would also like to add that his dad is wise, very wise indeed; a dad worth looking up to. His mother is only as weak as she's been taught and still believes herself to be.

Answer 8

I think it's an awesome story that women should read. Yes, I have had similar experiences. My mother always used to hit me and stuff, the only difference is I never hit her back even when one time she tried to violently fight me, I just ran away. I didn't have similar experiences in the classroom, but one of my friend had. His math teacher always used to be really harsh on him and do kind of the same stuff as in the story. He would talk and get sent to the office and lose a mark. Other girls would talk and she'd let them.

Answer 9

I think it's a tragic story, it's not the whole story nor is it an accurate example to even be a generalisation or stereotypical description. I would have to know a lot more to be able to give a fair analysis of this subject.

Answer 10

I have been hit by my husband on a number of occasions but I always put it down to his Victorian attitude. I cannot understand the need for men to hit women or visa-versa, it is so barbaric. It all sounds like caveman mentality.