and left you with nothing and told you that we had just run out of funds and then had a go at you for buying her a nice mothers day present what would you do ?
2007-04-28 00:04:16 · 24 answers · asked by stan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Better to blow £200 on gambling, than blowing people up. Fair play to her.
2007-04-28 05:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Hi, Sounds like she needs help, £200 is a lot of money to have gambled away. She should be thankful you have bought her a gift for mothers day. She cant make you feel guilty just because you bought her a lovely gift you didn't know she had squandered money gambling it's her that should feel guilty, but like most people who, gamble, drink, etc they always put the blame on someone else.
2007-04-28 01:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by kevina p 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First ask her if she has a gambling problem. If she denies it ask her why she was irresponsible with the money. If she is uncooperative then ask her to go with you to see a marriage guidance counsellor. If she refuses then I suggest your marriage has a very short shelf life as do many servicemen's. I wish you well but this needs dealing with - it is also possible she is suffering from depression. Be gentle with her all the way. If you start yelling then remember you loved her once and thought the sun shone from her. If you are angry with her it is based on frustration not hatred but people say things in the heat of the moment and hurt each other. Be gentle. But be firm.
2007-04-28 00:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be very angry!!!
It is wrong she left you short just to gamble. However does she have a serious gambling problem? Gambling is like an addiction.
Contact the Army Welfare department via general office as they should be able to help you.
Also you must have an account of your own and restrict what money you give her. You also need to be firm with her that she needs help and her gambling has to stop.
2007-04-28 08:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is, I'd open up a separate bank account in your own name and put a good part of your earnings in there at least for the time being.
Perhaps it is just to fill a void, as another answerer suggested, but hang on to your money while you're away, and sit her down and have a good talk about her spending habits when you get back.
Hope this helps, Penny xx
2007-04-28 00:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ha! I'd tell her "Well look who's talking! You're the person who just blew 200 quid!"
Why should you get shouted at for buying something nice for mother's day!? At least your use of money is productive! At least you got something for your money!
2007-04-28 00:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I would tell her she got her mother's day present early to the tune of 200 quid and already spent it.
2007-04-28 00:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband has been in the army for 5 a million/2 years (lively accountability). we've been married 2 a million/2 years of it. he's been faraway from living house a lot greater desirable than in basic terms deployment, yet 2 months for 2d excursion so far.
2016-12-10 13:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't normally say this dude, but get rid..
Shes not worth it.
She sounds selfish, ungreatful and she needs to grow up.
Gambling is an addiction, she obviously enjoyed blowing £200 on gambling, don't think shes going to stop.
You deserve better.
She has no sence of money, that money could have saved over 100 lives in Africa TODAY.
2007-04-28 00:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by Sahra 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Be understanding??? I mean... she obviously... feels guilty... for having blown that much money... in the first place... and then by you purchasing her a gift that she doesn't feel worthy of... rubbed some salt in her self inflicted "wound"... Gambling can become a demoralizing habit... a habit... that revolves around self loathing... and despair...
Absolutely... there are things you can do... hold her... and talk to her... find out how she decided to find an "escape" in gambling... ask her what you can do to help her achieve that... "rush" away from the tables...
avoid asking why... why questions... do not get to the heart of the matter... do not... offer an opportunity for dialogue... and that's what you two need right now... open honest conversation... So... what would I do??? I would be understanding... and ask for her help to get me to understand... one of the greatest joys in life... is holding someone's hand... realizing... that they not only love you... enough to hold your hand... They love you enough to take the time to understand you.
Good luck
2007-04-28 00:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
it sounds to me like she is lonely and trying to fill a void. Maybe she had a go at you for the mothers day present because she was upset that you weren't with her to help with the kids on that day.
2007-05-01 05:56:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋