Ok, so my 26 year old husband of 4 years is wayyyyyy too obsessed w/having sex with me. I am so not in the mood it's not even funny. I love him, he is still sexy to me, but I have 2 kids and a totally dimished sex drive. What should I do? I dont wanna hear vulgar responses or why you think I have this problem. I wanna know what you think I should do to redirect his sexual energy without being hurtful. Thanks!
2007-04-27 18:51:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you should stop being so SMOKING HOT. Dumb it down a little... get fat, stop washing your face let some black heads crop up, don't wear deoderant, fart alot. Stop being so hot!! It's causing him to go CRAZY!!!
2007-04-27 19:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by radrictheomen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with him. When you get your sex drive back, he's gonna wonder what's going on with you all of a sudden. Here's a good example of "what goes around, comes around". If he starts looking somewhere else now, when your hormones get out of control, then you get to "redirect your sexual energy" and he will have to be patient if he isn't already gone. And it does happen, some men just don't understand the bigger picture and why patience is a virtue.
2007-04-28 02:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truely wish I had your problem. Girl when they dont want it from you be scared and worried they getting it from someone else. Out of personal experience on both ends I am now the one seeking attention and not getting any from my guy. I divorced 4 yrs ago after 13 yrs when I found out my ex was sleeping around blames me because I had a broken back and had just had back surgery. So you see I wish I had your problem. It does help tho honestly to take him to an adult toy store an get kinky and maybe a little freaky with him and keep changeing styles keep it interesting for both of you role play if need be.
2007-04-28 02:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by reniebambie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that for the time, you give in to him. Then while giving into him, you see a counselor and ask for more professional answers that will help things. I don't mean you have a problem by any means, because I am aware that this is a common occurance. I only mean that you don't want to give him any excuse to look elsewhere, and in the meantime, you ask a professional on the best way to attack this issue and help your husband with his issue at the same time. Did I make sense???
2007-04-28 02:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't defined what you mean by sexaholic. How often does he want it? Twice a week? Twice a day? Are you sure that he is the one with a problem? Did you used to want it as often as he does? Do you share the household chores evenly? Both work?
So many variables to consider in this question.
2007-04-28 02:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is 26 thats why men get married hoping they finally got someone they can have sex with all the time but it doesnt work out like that if you dont do it some other women will but if you stay near or in a major city getting some kind of ticket to a sporting event or buy him some kind of internet porn but that may only enhance it
2007-04-28 02:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by anthentherwasi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having children in the marriage is the most off putting thing to intimacy. You may find he will take up golf or another hobby to channel his energy. Rather than refuse to let him have intercourse with you , use your hands on him. Most males want relief not necessarily vaginal penetration to achieve this. There are many techniques that you can use.
2007-04-28 02:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by sonia m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a time when frequent intercourse wasn't desirable for me, but I also knew my husband and I needed to take care of eachother. We studied a little and found many different ways to pleasure eachother without intercourse.
I won't get graphic, but let me put it this way, I have breasts and hands and believe me, my husband got all the sexual relief he needed even without intercourse. I think you get the picture:)
2007-04-28 07:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are just going to have to tell this stud to take on more responsibility for the house and kids to take some of the load off you to create more time for sex.
2007-04-28 02:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by T-Rex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish my guy was like that!!! We are only young once and there will come a day when we wish we could.
Love can get through it however... if it's right. Just try to compromise. Try making it more fun for you... flirt with him as if you were in high school and he's the hottest guy in the world in your eyes.
2007-04-28 02:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by Angela C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's more into the entertainment sex than the romantic. Tell him quality is better than quantity, and let him know you're tired and not always in the mood
2007-04-28 02:09:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋