I have been getting stressed communicating with one of my colleagues. He has the bad habit of interrupting before complete instructions are given. How do I sort this out?
2007-04-27 17:32:09 · 9 answers · asked by chordchemistry 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He does not carry out instructions and does what he feels fit!!
2007-04-27 17:33:40 · update #1
people can absorb different amounts of information -- especially in serial instructions.
Maybe your instructions are too long or too convoluted. Have you tried writing down the instructions? Some people respond better to text than they do to oral directions.
You are a woman, he is a man. Could be some gender issues there for him, that make the communication less effective.
Look at posture, tone, look at whether you communicate to him in front of others, (where he might feel belittled or criticized) or one on one.
Lastly (and sadly) men are socialized to interrupt and be aggressive, so you may need to remind him that this is not the waterhole and you are not defending the kill -- you both work for the same Uncle and let's get the job done.
You might learn a few useful things about your communication style from him -- we often learn a lot from those we "rub the wrong way". So don't "write him up" -- what a childish response. Try to learn what the real issues are.
Good luck!
2007-04-27 18:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by emagidson 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him to stop interrupting you. "please stop interrupting me, if you have any questions wait until I finish explaining everything"
I had a co-worker that would always say "Well, in my opinion it should be done this way" as I was trying to train him. I finally told him, "until you learn this system, you don't have an opinion". He stopped interrupting me.
2007-04-27 17:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by kgee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 00:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are giving the instructions tell him to shut up and listen and then kick him in the **** when he gets it wrong.
You will have to do that verbally and not physically.
2007-04-27 17:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by Murray H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the next time he interrupts, make sure you make the remark: "can you / wait till i am finished please."
trust me, my friend is a talkitive person and she tends to interrupt a LOT. and i tell her when she interuppts,"wait hold on let me finish" or sometimes i just say "shh lemme finish"
trust me i have the same problem.
2007-04-27 17:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by rundumctrickaaay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well l would tell this person to make their point or keep quiet lf lt keeps going on report this person cause lt`s not right that this person is doing this. that can be very annoying
2007-04-27 17:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try a little patients and see what he has to say,
2007-04-27 17:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his boss. If you are his boss, write him up.
2007-04-27 17:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mary A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your the boss then fire him/her........If not then tell him/her how it is?
2007-04-27 17:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by basspro420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋