She had been a stay at home for the past 7 years but since her education and experience are in the same field she might have an easier time finding a job that makes what we need, but she is totally freaked out about returning to a career. My degree is in another field than my experience which is manufacturing and that industry is dead in Michigan. I am really searching out of state but no real solid leads. My unemployment runs out in two months also.
2007-04-27 16:46:50 · 14 answers · asked by parkdad73 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she knows you truly have been trying to get employment and she knows your unemployment is running out, she needs to step up to the plate and help out the family. If she doesn't.....well I don't want to go there. If she can get employment and make the money you need to survive, this may give you an opportunity to go back to school and get into something else where there is a demand. Then you can market yourself in a couple of fields. Of course moving from Michigan is probably inevitable. Good luck.
2007-04-27 17:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by Flyboy in Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We went through this same situation. Turned out it took my husband 8 months to find employment. We did the best we could but money was tight and frankly it was quite frightening financially. Instead of telling her she needs to look sit down and brainstorm how you can go about getting through this time. She might just come up with that as part of her solution. I too stayed at home for 7 years and although I didn't go back into my field we decided to take jobs that would allow one of us to be at home at all times. The jobs didn't pay as much but we both felt good that once my husband could locate an appropriate job I would quite the job I had and resume staying at home.
Financially if you need it check into your insurance and see if you can borrow against it. This will buy you some time to get back on your feet.
2007-04-28 00:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Orion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can't see that you and the household need for her to go get a job, then you are in trouble. Being a stay at home mom, is not about sitting on your butt, it's about raising your family, so when it's time to roll up your sleeve, then that's what you do. Just tell her, now the family need her help too. I'm sure she sees you trying to find a job and with no luck, tell her to help the family out for a little while at least.
2007-04-27 23:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad I'm in Michigan to and half of my friends are unemployed . Michigan really got hit hard as far as employment goes one guy i know has been out of work for a year hes going out of state and Ive lost 2 friends that had to go looks like I'm going to be the last of the Mohegans . I would suggest her to get out there as soon as possible . We really need rid of Bush in a bad way but I'm afraid nobody is going to realize it until half of are nation are on welfare . Ive seen one recession and it looks where well on our way
2007-04-28 00:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally why I left Michigan, more than once.
Been there, done that, with the wife a couple times. Best you can hope for is for her to get a Temp or PT job till YOU can get on your feet.
3 out of 4 times she hasn't.
You need to get SOMTHING even if it dosen't "make what you need".
2007-04-28 05:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife that any savings you have will run out very very fast and it will be extremely difficult to keep a roof over your head when you start missing mortgage payments. Then where will you guys end up? Homeless.
Your wife needs to be understanding and go back to work to help support the family.
2007-04-28 00:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, and hopefully she will understand. She might be scared to return to work but in time she should get used to it again. Good Luck on finding a job and it's great that you have not gave up and are still looking!!
2007-04-27 23:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by meriq27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife need to sit down and discuss this in depth. Nobody here can give you the quick fix that you are looking for. That is why you are married, to find the solutions to life's problems together.
2007-04-27 23:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I cannot believe your wife is not out there looking. She sounds a little pampered. She needs to be told before you are in a financial mess.
2007-04-27 23:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in fact you don't have to ask her, she should take the initiative but maybe she is also afraid that you would be offended so better talk things out & be practical. Two chances is obviously better than one.
2007-04-28 00:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by Leonie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋