Um.. need an explanation and help??

Question

My mom was diagnosed with a brain tumor when I was 6 years old. After 9 months and probably 20 surgeries she couldn’t talk, feed herself, and she could barely walk. My brothers, my dad, and I were caring for her like she was a baby. It was tearing our family apart. I had to “baby-sit” at 6 years old. The year before she passed away she was in a vegetative state and made life even harder. My mom passed away two years later when I was 8, just before I started the third grade. I was devastated. I was supposed to be “mommy’s little princess.” I always asked myself and still sometimes do, “Why would god take my mom away.” My life hasn’t been going much better since than. I am 15 years old now and live in a small Mormon community with my dad and two brothers. We are one of the few non-Mormon families around.

Just over a year ago we had a Mormon family of 6 moved in next door to us. They have 2 girls (10, 12) and 2 boys (6, 8). As I watch their mom I see all of the motherly things in her as I have dreamed of having in a mom. She takes them shopping; she sits and talks with them as they clean their room; she just seems like a perfect mother. Sometimes I just want her to sit and talk with me about my mom, but I don’t want to be the one to bring it up. So I decided to just not talk to her and it’s been about 3 weeks that I haven’t talked to her, but I still play with her daughters, but I won’t go in the house. So today she sent one of her girls to ask me why I won’t talk to her because she’s afraid that she did something wrong. So I told the girl to just tell her mom that it wasn’t her fault and I left it at that. Does her wanting to know why I won’t talk to her mean anything? And what should I do? If you have read my other questions on this topic you will know what I’m talking about.

Answer 1

With her asking that tells me that she cares about you and wants to know if things are ok, if she did something then she wants to make it right so that you will come around again.

I would just go sit with her and explain what has happened and how you feel about it and how you feel when you see her mothering her children. I am very sure that she would love to talk to you, she saounds like a very nice person and a good listener too.

Go for it, asking never hurts.

Answer 2

i think you should talk to her see my mom was like being dead but wasnt just on a crap load of drugs i raised my lil bro and sis i never had my mom there i was taken away when i was 8 and lived foster home from foster home till i was 18 now im 19 have a 41/2 year old son and am pregnant again i need a mother right about now agin but still do not have a good one i have taken the step in talking about my past with my friends mom and she is so caring and has been there for me ever sence i was 13 and pregnant the first time she even calls me one of her kids if a parent takes the step first and is worried that you dont like them then i see that they care for you and even if you go to that door step and knock and start crying i bet you she will be there with open arms just tell her why you have shyed away you dont have a mom its totally understandable and i bet she would be so happy to be there for you most mormans are i was once one and my family as well only i took paths that did not match the ways so good luck please talk to her it will help you

Answer 3

I think she wants to be your God mother, and u should let her.
Dont feel bad, your mom is in a better place and she is not suffering.
U are still in mourning over your mom, try to eat honeysuckles when they come out or any honeysuckle smell will help relieve the sadness that comes with a loss loved one.
Talk to the moma and go in the house, u will be grown before u know it and miss out.
Just cheer up , and make the best of the situation .
Open up to her and tell her u really miss your mom and that she feels like a god- moma to u.
Be open and positively minded.

Answer 4

She sounds like a very caring and loving person. Why not just sit down with her and talk. She probably does feel like she did something wrong and you would set her mind at ease that she did not.

Answer 5

Your question to God "why would you take my mom away"

I believe God is answering your question. Your neighbor seems to care about you, and because God wants his Angels in heaven he also has them on earth. He is letting you know that even though your mom is with him she is also with you, and we have angels on earth just like your neighbor who seems to care about you. She is concerned and because you missed out on a mother God is given you one through a motherly friend. She is reaching out to you she senses something is wrong. Please reach back to her. Talk to her let her know what happened. You will fill good afterwords. I'm so sorry for your lost and I will pray for you and your family.

Answer 6

you are a strong person,you have to let this women into your life,not to take over your mothers position,but to guide you as a mother would.let her love you,let her talk to her,and maybe you should talk to her about how you feel,we all need somebody. She was put there for a reason,maybe she's your angel,or maybe you are hers!good luck sweetie,you'll be in my thoughts.

Answer 7

Does she know you lost your mother? Perhaps she is wanting to talk to you as much as you want to talk to her, and she's waiting for you to make the first move.

Try and see. What do you have to lose?

Answer 8

I think you should talk to her. She sounds like she cares and loves you.
God put her in your life for a reason.

Answer 9

I think she does care and it would not be a bad thing for you to go over and talk to her about everything and anything.

Answer 10

She sounds like a person you could trust and talk to easily. try talking to her.