i get enraged and angry when people feel sorry for me, why is this? even though i have my psychological?

Question

problems, i still have pride, morals, principles, and dignity, and im striving for the high ambitions i have in life.
so i get enraged when people learn about my adversity and hardship in life and feel the need to feel sorry for me, and treat me like a charity case, like somebody to be pittied, like im a tard or something..i no who iam, and what i want. so i dont need to be treated differently to everyone else, like theres something wrong with me. or abnormal.

i get so angry when i think about people treating me this way, that i picture batterin their skull in, not that i would but i get so angry..
how can i manage these feelings?

Answer 1

you should probably seek some psychological counselling . you need to find out why you are reacting with such anger and deal with your own issues re what others think of you...but you alreafy know that right....?others do not define who you are......rage is not healthy...............

Answer 2

It sounds as though you have some anger issues and you definitely need some assistance here. Go to a reliable professional and work through it. You alone will have to find the answer to your problem but a professional can help you get there.
It may be difficult, but you will get to the bottom of this. Once you do, you will feel drained at first but you will then be able to "tighten up your boot straps" and march on.
Believe me, I've been there. Not for anger issues but for other things.
I am a short female (5'0") and often get reminded of that fact. I don't feel "short" and am up there with the best of them.
There have been occasions when I would see a very tall person (usually basketball players) and I would tell my co-workers to watch this. I would walk down the hall standing next to the very tall person and engage in conversation. It always brought on gales of laughter seeing the difference in stature.
As the quote goes, " There is bad in the best of us and good in the worst of us, so it hardly behooves any of us to talk about the rest of us".

Answer 3

To begin with, I'd suggest taking homeopathic Ignatia.
Then, besides that, try to re-frame your reaction. Keep in mind that the people who feel sorry for you don't mean you any harm; in fact, just the opposite. They may be responding in a way that is unhelpful, but that isn't their intention. Try to give them credit for good intentions, and then learn ways to tell them how you want to be treated. (Some of them won't listen, but that isn't your problem, is it? You don't have to like everybody; just be civil.)
If you can humorously say, "I wonder if you could do me a favor? Could you just treat me like everybody else? Sympathy makes me nervous!" Humor is a great way to correct somebody without either of you feeling bad.