I would have been ok not going to his reunion but I'm concerned now because it seems like he was trying to keep it a secret. I received an invitation in the mail addressed to "my fiance and guest" to attend his 10 year high school reunion in another state. When I asked him about it he told me he already booked his flight to go away for the weekend and didn't even consider asking me to go with him. I'm confused to why he wouldn't want to share that part of his life with me - at least meet a few friends he grew up with - as he's met my childhood friends. I'm hurt. For him to make this plan without mentioning it to me doesn't feel right.
2007-04-27 14:55:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first of all don't assume anything and for us to give you an answer would be an assumption. There are a miriad of reasons why he could have done this. Some of them could be that he is embarrased by some of the people he used to know, he's embarrased about things they might know about him, he is a man and wasn't thinking, and the list goes on. You should tell him how you feel and ask him to explain.
2007-05-01 00:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would almost think he booked the flight for that very reason, he is going to his reunion. Now, why he doesn't want to be honest about it is because just maybe he has an old flame he would like to see. Now, the answers on here is guessing since we know nothing at all about him, but when someone lies to us, it is covering something.
2007-04-27 22:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be an innocent mistake on his part (maybe he couldn't afford to take you with him, worried you'd get bored by his friends, feel left out, etc.), but someone planning stuff like this without at least letting a fiance at least know about it -- is not a good thing for a relationship.
2007-04-27 22:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by joe b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 54 yr old boyfriend of 5 yrs did the same thing. He has been married twice since high school and it hurt my feelings.
I am 12 yrs younger than he is and consider myself to be pretty hot for 42 yrs old. Compared to his 1st ex who weighs about 270 lbs and his 2nd wife who weighed in at about 360 and just had bariatric surgery, I think I am pretty hot. They both are in their 50's.
I think he wanted to reminisc and thats what I think your fiance is doing. It sounds corny huh! It has nothing to do with you. He just wants to re live his high school days. If you are there, it will burst his fantasy.
2007-04-27 23:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he should have talked to you about it, however I totally understand about him wanting to go alone. Maybe he thought you wouldn't 'let' him go without you. Reunions are just a time to get together to rehash old stuff and have a good ole time. No need for you to be there to comment on his old girlfriends and stuff; he will feel much more comfortable alone. It's no slight on you at all, just the circumstances.
2007-04-27 23:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For my reunion, I want to be my old self again, see my old friends, act like 18 again, and not to worry about my companion. Would you go to a girl's reunion? Would it feel like a 3rd wheel?
2007-04-27 22:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is either hoping to hook up with an old flame or he's ashamed of you and doesn't want his old class mates to see you and since he is your fiance only you know him well enough to decide and then again there is a third option and that is he is simply using it as some alone time and if thats the case then you have nothing to stress over.
2007-04-28 00:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by windwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Secrets between people that are about to get married is a bad sign. Confront him, let him know how you feel. Ask how he'd feel if the situation was reversed. Good luck :)
2007-04-27 22:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I smell a dead fish ! If he is so thoughtless of you now, how will it be after you marry him? Hmmmmm............
It doesn't sound right to me either. Your gut feelings are almost always right. I'd be more than hurt. I'd be re-thinking this whole relationship. He's got plans and you're not on his agenda.
2007-04-27 22:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to hook up with a former girlfriend??? How long have you two been going together? Maybe he wants one last fling? I don't know, but I'd be hurt too, hon.
2007-04-27 21:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by April 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋