is it a bit absurd not to say we gays are stereotypes...?

Question

why?? because when we were young and we felt there was something different in us, we didnt have a refence to look into...straight people have their parents as reference and they might like what they see or not, but they can choose they can be like the adults around or be rebels and oppose the conventions of the adults around them...for us gay people have never been so, we coulnt take the adults around us as reference because they didnt experience what we did, they couldnt possibly know what is it to be at school and felt you were different (and enduring the behaviour of other kids who could see that as well). So the lack of reference in childhood made us all ( gay people over 30 ) to turn to somewhere else looking for referents and 30 years ago we "new gay children" couldnt find any so easily. I think our behaviour can be seen a stereotype, maybe we are personally different some of us more shy some of us less "coward" but apart from that we are fruit of the same tv shows, books, movie

Answer 1

HA, speak for yourself.

I don't use other gay people for reference, I find most gay people to be annoying, and I don't want to be annoying.

I am me, gay is only a small part of that. It doesn't really rule my life.

In the end though, I don't need a reference to be me, that's just silly. Other people are along for the ride, they don't get to tell me how to be me though. They may help shape me, but I don't model myself on them.

I am me, regardless of reference, or societal pressure, even pressure from gay society.

I do hope this makes sense.

Oh, and I think you're talking about fitting into gay culture, I've never much tried to fit in, always seemed dull to me, too much "skirt chasing" not enough substance.

Answer 2

There are always people who can fall into the profiles of stereotypes -- whether black, gay, republican, whatever. But there are also always people who fall way outside the definitions of stereotypes. Instead of focusing on the label, you should treat each person as an individual. So what if somewhat exhbits a stereotypical quality. It doesn't make them less of a unique person. And if someone is totally outside of the box, its the same thing. People are just people who make different choices and have different characteristics than other people.

Answer 3

I will give you my opinion but some people may think I am very mistaken, but here I go.

I believe sexual identification and sexual orientation is adquired when you grow up.

You need a male model (whatever your gender is, to learn how men act and what link can you have with men) and a female model (to learn how women act and what link can you have with them) and you are supposed to get it with your parents.

Some psychologists believe homosexuality is due to an incorrect overcoming of a complex about your parents.

The thing is that a homosexual intercourse does not bring children. And in the past, reproduction was considered the only reason to have sexual intercourse. That is the reason it is considered "different" to be homosexual. But only humans can use sex as an enjoyment and can get pleasure from it and separate the reproductive function from it.

But I guess that whatever your orientation is, sexuality is still something very personal.

Answer 4

People think I'm wrong because i value my friends over family, but thats just because they have gone through the same things i have. My parents dont know what its like for me to be openly gay, they blame all homophobic hate on me saying that I :"flaunt" my gayness. But its not like I go around shouting that I'm a lesbian, I act myself, and people can tell. I dont think that we stereotype at all. I just think that people dont understand us. They think that its a choice just because everyone comes out at a different age. LGBT people wouldn't be so afraid of being comfortable with their sexual orienation if society wouldnt make such a big deal out of it. So i'm a lesbian....who cares, love is love.

Answer 5

i think i understand what you're saying and i agree. However, that doesn't give people the right to judge us or think every gay person represent the other. that's what make the difference.

Answer 6

no, I've met some that fit the steriotypes and some you couldnt tell apart from straight men