I have changed completely as a person. I dont want to be the new me. I want to go back being my ol' self.?

Question

Before I left home last year for my education. I was a very organised , responsible and dedicated student. Since then I have changed so much. I forget things nowadays. I got a boyfriend, with whom I hav had a physical relationship. My course is getting affected. Everything is going WRONG.

Answer 1

sounds like a good choice and you have taken the first step to being able to change 'back' to your 'old' self by admitting that you have changed and by recognizing how you've changed and what you don't like about it

it's easy when we get out on our own to let ourselves go in the responsibility and organizational areas because we don't have our parents there and we feel we are less likely to disappoint them because they are far away..........try talking to your parents on a very regular basis and put up a picture of them in your dorm room or apartment as a reminder not to disappoint them and of how you want to be

good luck on getting back to being who YOU want to be........

Answer 2

You haven't changed it's still the real you the thing is that your in love and your doing more things that you never did. It's o.k to loosen up a bit we need it, education is something we need to consider and take serious but sometimes we need to allow our self to enjoy the things around us that seem to be ignored opportunities that just don't have us doing the "same o same o". It's a good feeling to be lost in love and if the joy is there why not enjoy it. I believe you truly truly fall in love ones yes there are always other loves but can't compare to the first love. Take it slow and take it a day at a time don't be to fast or harsh on your self your young and enjoy every moment of your life. Now that you see the ride coming to an end things will start to fall back in place it was just a moment of fun a "memory". Don't regret it we all need a break and you will get those grades go up you will become the person that you dream of because you recognize who you are and who you want to be and guess what your reaching for it so it will happen. If your boyfriend is on the fast lane here tell him to slow down if he loves you he will.
Now that your becoming a young women you see what you didn't see before there will be other rides ahead rather good or not, slow or fast they will be there and what you do learn from them and enjoy moments that make you happy and let go of the things that hold you back. You will have choices to make before making them think twice think from every angle of it then go for what is best. If you ever come to a dead end street know that you can always make a u-turn and exit your way out there is always a solution and hope for what ever matter. Call your parents and thank them for all the things they done and still do, thank them for being your parent's and thank them for raising an educated,organized,responsible daughter that you are and more.
Take care and I wish you the best.

Answer 3

Hi. Perhaps you are judging yourself too quickly and not allowing the whole picture to manifest. We all experiment something of a letting go of our earlier behavior traits and then are imbued with feelings of guilt. All this is due to the extremely complex social equilibrium where the family structure was the first advanced programing that laid tracks in our mind at the DOS level, we have been hardwired so to say and later we try to leave that and try some new activity that usually ends up in failure because if we succeed we must live with this discomfort and unknown factor and most of the time we find ourselves back doing what we have always been done and are most comfortable doing anyways. The new style makes sense but usually that is as far as it goes. We are taught to repress our instincts more and more and make way for social activities but at the moment all we have learned to do is maintain our instintual behavior in the closet where we let go in secret.
Perhaps you could instead of abandoning what was good for you like a more disciplined and together lifestyle, incorporate that into your maturation and not try to amputate it and then replace it with less effective activity. You can be as you wish and still succeed at school where you will gain the confidence to guide humankind forward and if that is not more important then, well... go ahead and let all this be your excuse to fail. I mean, there will always be enough people to fill in your space amongst those who slice the pie.

Answer 4

If you really, really mean this...take different steps...small steps. Be very conscious of what you say "Yes" to. Keep recalling your desire to be more organized, responsible and dedicated to what you need for your future.

Many students change a lot during their first year of college, including having a physical relationship! You can get back on track, but you will have to make different choices.

When friends want to go out to party and you have finals, etc. remember your goals. It will be hard...very tempting, but you will be happier in the long run.

People who manage their lives well learn the importance of discipline. It is not 'by accident' that they achieve their goals.

It is great that you see this now! Many young people get pregnant, drop out of school and are 40 when they have the feeling that "Everything is going WRONG".

Answer 5

You are adapting to a new social structure, in a learning curve.
The way this is done is.
Perceive the new stimuli.
Orient to that information (adjustment are made according to your values}
Habituate. Move on to new stimuli.
Don't worry about it's normal, your concern are causing you problems concentrating on your studies,
Take Psychology 101, it will help in all your future endeavors.
My best have a great life, sincerely

Answer 6

He's d**K whipping you. Don't let lust get to you and you'll be back to your old self!

Answer 7

just re-focus your priorities, if somethings not going right, change it.