it's been over 2 months and i've had several occasions that were sad and i couldn't cry. my relationship of 7 years ended and my grandfather passed. What is wrong with me?
2007-04-27 11:44:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's perfectly normal, I've had the same experience myself.
A very effective technique that a number of people use, especially the girls, is to rent a nice "tear jerker" movie - even when they're not upset, they do it for mental maintenance.
It works.
2007-04-27 11:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I am a female and used to cry at Hallmark commercials, I have hit a point in my life where I have been required to be extremely tough. I feel like I can relate to this quite well. There are times when horrible things happen and I simply cannot cry. Everyone around me will be crying and I feel like such a heel because I can't. I think it's a defense mechanism. I think we're just in survival mode for a while.
Let's face it, you've had some major losses recently. In order for your mind to fully let go, you have to face some serious vulnerability. This means you might have to allow yourself to feel WEAK. I REALLY hate that feeling. Generally, I will be rolling along and something stupid will happen, like the cat knocks a glass off the counter and my favorite Bengals cup is broken...suddenly, I completely break down in tears. Then it all comes flowing out.
I suspect our minds try to protect us until the heart is prepared to handle it. Allow yourself to feel it when you're ready, just don't keep TRYING to hold it in. If you feel it coming, let it go. Sometimes, bursts of anger can get it going too. When you are safely alone, let yourself get really, really mad. Do some physical exercise at home, punish your body, stimulate the anger and exhaust yourself. Sometimes this works for me. I go to the gym and work out until I nearly pass out, then I'm in the shower and the tears flow and flow and flow.
You are completely normal, dear. Do some things for yourself that make you feel good. You deserve a little pampering, whatever form that might be for you. You've been through a helluva lot.
~Sandy
2007-04-27 12:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by danemaniac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are actually the Terminator played by Arnold Schwarzeneggar.
No, but seriously, emotions can control themselves sometimes. You might feel like you have to be the strong one in the family and show everyone how independant you are. One thing about emotions is they're always there, crying or not, everyone shows their emotions in different ways. Sometimes sadness can be displayed over a long period of time or might come out years later.
2007-04-27 11:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by Brendan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one strong possibility was that you did not feel like you were in a safe environment to show such emotion.
you may think you were, but the subconsious decides - - so don't get down on yourself there may have been others / or just the timing that you were not feeling safe.
give it time brother - & again, don't be hard on yourself.
-- You may have heard this before .... but emotional openness for a man is like sexual openness for a woman, so until you truly feel safe enough to do it; you will not be able to. --
2007-04-27 12:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by dharp66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone cries and not everyone can cry on command. Crying can occur because your sad but it's just reaction, you can cry if you stub your toe. It's the feelings that matter, not the tears or lack thereof.
2007-04-27 11:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by מימי 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just in shock, hon. Maybe your dehydrated and you can't make tears! Haha. Watch a sad movie and let it all out before it tears you up. I am sorry to hear about all your bad news, I hope you feel better.
Cheers! :]
2007-04-27 11:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Seduce A Stranger :] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel.
i hate life so much right now that i wish i was dead but no matter what i do i can't muster up a single tear.
in my personal opinion, i'm too emotionally numb to feel anything, even sadness.
that might be your problem to.
i hope you start to feel better.
2007-04-27 14:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by defofutbol13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hurt is so deep until you are not releasing yourself and until you do, the tears will not come, and when the tears do come then things will be better for you. Releasing the tears will help overcome the pain and hurt inside.
2007-04-27 11:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is probably because u are not sad or not sad enough to cry
2007-04-27 11:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by beaters_ofu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess that's denial, you probably don't want to accept that those events happened..that's perfectly normal
2007-04-27 15:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by ~~~~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋