He'd rather buy weed than put back money for baby that's in hospital..or for house we're supposed to be getting in.He also refuses to got to work everyday.....what to do?
2007-04-27 11:25:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please explain why you married him to start with?
2007-04-27 11:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
RUN! RUN FAST, Run FAR, RUN AWAY!
This is one of those "What were you thinking when you conceived/got married ..." -- did you expect to CHANGE him in some way?
The loser HAS made his choice -- it is to MAKE YOU PAY for his Addictions, HIS 'needs' and his desires .. and does NOT care one wit for the Child or the marriage or YOU (except as a "Meal Ticket" or easy pocket to pick for $$$ when he wants to smoke it up).
He will NOT want to work -- ever -- as long as you are there propping his loser rear end up and LETTING him walk all over you! So ...
RUN .. file for divorce .. and yes, get your INFANT and YOU out of that environment right now -- BEFORE that loser's antics result in the life of YOU, Your child, or (heaven's forbid) -- BOTH of your lives as his Pushers come seeking a bit of revenge for the fact that he stiffed them and did not pay for his next 'fix' or 'high'.
PLEASE take yourself and your infant to a Shelter for Abuse Victims RIGHT NOW ... and yes DO Stay there and take their help and support at this time. DO go to Al-Anon or Narc-Anon meetings so you can learn to NOT enable this loser to keep taking advantage of you. DO file the Restraining Orders on the behalf of YOURSELF and THE CHILD .. so that his Addictions are NOT around the child and the child is NOT endangered at this time. And yes, REPORT his loser rear end to the police each and every time he 'scores' a 'hit' or 'high' -- and ask that he be REMOVED from your home and sight!
2007-04-27 11:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 11:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not change him..only he can do that.. and more than likely he will never change...it is up to you do put the money away for your home and child...now with that out of the way.. do love him enough to put up with type of behavior.. if not then get out.. if so then hang in there.. there may come a time in his life when he wants to change.. but i know pot heads that are in their 50s and 60s one and showing no signs of quitting..i know what your dealing with i too am dealing with it.. only difference is mine will work..get seperate bank accounts and keep your money seperate.. have him pay half of all the bills...that way he aint smoking up all your money too
2007-04-27 12:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT WITH YOUR CHILD NOW!!!! Please. You can not change him. Your child is your number one concern. There is no choice between the two. Go to your baby and with with the child and get assistance out of the home you are in with him. PLEASE. My aunt was killed by a drug addict... in front of her 3 year old child. PLEASE leave the guy... PLEASE... Your child deserves all the safety in this world and being with that trash is not safe.
There are women's shelters which will provide you a safe hide out. I had to be in one too. Put your child first. Please. Get help. Get a restraining order. GET OUT!!!
That little one is in the hospital counting on you to do the right thing. Don't look back just get out and get a divorce. He will never change and you can not force him.
Stay safe. Keep that baby safe. They didn't ask to be here in that place.
2007-04-27 11:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by Angela C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And this is the man of your dreams...or were you just dreaming when you married him...surely you didn't think you were going to change him, did you? Perhaps had you asked this question before getting married, you could have been helped...I am sure that many told you that you were making a mistake, but obviously , you didn't listen then, and you aren't listening now. ... now, when everything within you is screaming RUN! Good luck
2007-04-27 11:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you id drop his butt like a hot potato. You and that child deserve better. It takes a man to raise a baby and family, not a boy. You should cut your losses while this baby is young and start a new healthy life for yourself and child.
2007-04-27 11:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you will take charge of the finances for home & baby or you will be found at your Mothers My hubby gambles but I control the household budget.
2007-04-27 11:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by hobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and get a job to take care of your baby yourself. Why would you want to stay with a person that is just so immature and selfish?
2007-04-27 12:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by suz' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl--why are you having a baby by this man!!?
If you're less than 3 months pregnant, my hard advice is to go to the doctor and get this "taken care of" if you know what I mean--leave that man, and develop a relationship with God and never, ever date these loser men agian.
2007-04-27 11:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
any one who chooses drugs over their child and family....loves no one but himself. I would kick him out, I would no longer support him in this manner. He is using you, and you are putting up with it....and long as you put up with him not working and buying drugs....he will always use you.
2007-04-27 13:18:54 · answer #11 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋