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Question

She was a Sagittarius and I'm an aries
when I met my girlfriend now ex she was 19 and I was 24
first 3 years were great, we clicked like no other, I would make her laugh just by looking at her or touching her.... I could make her laugh so hard that she couldn't stop
I always loved her with all my heart, give her all the respect, kindness, kisses, and all the good stuff...I'm a hopeless romantic and a gentleman to the girls I like, respect and love
after 3 years I went into business of my own which is doing well but it keeps me away from home 7-10 sometimes 14 days at a time
but when I get back I can take as much time off as I desire 1-2 weeks no problem ..its not uncommon for me to be off 3months or more out of a year if you put it together
she works full time and goes to college 4 times a week so its not like she is lonely when I'm gone
I was so happy with her I didn't even look at other girls
but during the 4th year she started to be distant,not call or return call, always had different plans when i got back home and I didn't think nothing of it because I trusted her and she promised me she would never cheat on me because by doing that she would disrespect her self
besides she had her group of friends and I had mine....that was never an issue...actually we liked it like that
than one night she breaks up with me while we were in a bar with all of our friends hers and mine...it was a shock to me because it came from nowhere and it hit me like a sledge hammer and it drove me to tears and i sobbed like a little child in a BAR where all these people were looking at me! I didn't care, i could not control it. She comes back the same night with big tears, at first i didn't want to talk to her but she cried so much my heart couldn't take it and I gave in and took her back just so she would stop crying besides I did not want to split up....after that she promised if there ever is an issue she would come and talk to me
I'm very understanding and easy to compromise with, she promised she would never lie or push me away like that again
one year later same thing started to happen but worse, she would push me physically away when I was trying to snuggle up with her in bed, not call for a week, not call back at all, change plans 3-4 times a day so I finally confronted her and asked if everything is ok because I feel that something is wrong
she says that everything is fine and that she is sorry for pushing me away in bed but she was sleeping.
I asked her few more times during next few weeks and same story all over
than I finally couldn't take it anymore and made her tell me ( over the phone) what is going on
at teat time she asked for two weeks to figure out what she wants......fine I gave here that
two weeks past and I was ready to end this if she couldn't be honest again
so she calls me and her only excuse was that she was 19 when we met and now she is 24
just like that its over....she ruined the whole image I had of her and the trust is gone...

all of that happen 6 months ago and ever since than i not my self. I did not talk to her once, just txt for her bday, thks giving and xmass...she responded to these but not to the new years txt

it was quiet for 4 months and than she txt me for my bday......i did not respond to it....ive shed many tears, got mad, sad, betrayed, used unappreciated and everything else....
I did everything i could to forget about her...buried my self with work, got back into shape, but still can get her out of my head....i collected all of the vday and bday cards she ever gave me and dropped it off in front of her door....I even started to write a long letter to her but when it was finished i burned it....
how come i cant let go of this....every time i think of her my eyes get wet and I hardly ever cry

i;ve been with different women since than, but i cant get into it and I feel like I'm detached, no matter how good the woman is....my sex drive is nowhere near what it used to bee and when i do get woman in bed and get her naked i loose interest like THAT, poof and its gone

me 4/6/77
her 12/17/82

dont know times for either one

Answer 1

For one, she has a Capricorn moon. That can be a little insensitive.

You have a Scorpio moon which is why you have trouble dealing with this as it seems your emotions were toyed with. I too have a Scorpio moon and all I can tell you is Scorpio isn't for the faint hearted. Our emotions are deep and consuming. You need to get over this woman. The behavior is obsessive which is a Scorpio trait. Vengeance is also a Scorpio trait as well. The woman you had, the Sagittarius with the Capricorn moon is way too free spirited and sneaky for your own good. Please look to other water signs with maybe a fire moon or possibly and air moon. You need a Scorpio sun/Aries moon woman. That should pump up your sexual performance. Make sure her Venus aspects your Mars.

Sagittarius is impatient as a star sign and so is Capricorn. You need someone who is more willing to wait for you.

Answer 2

I am a Pisces guy, and somehow its not hard for me to see through any person's exterior, whether tough or not, and connect deep down. Don't ask me why this is, I have no logical cleverness but emotions etc. are something I can understand like the back of my hand. But the biggest heart I would say is Aries, because they put up a hard exterior and sometimes they can be real d*cks, but they don't mean to hurt people, and when you gain there trust and they feel like they can open up to you, they really have hearts of gold underneath. Next I would say is Leo, and its easier to see who they are deep down, because most Leos (except about 2) I have met are genuine, and are very warm, affectionate and generous, but like Aries, they need to trst you and have you treat them well first before they open up. Last is Sagittarius. Out of all the fire signs, I think sags are the most unpredicatble. Around half are genuinely nice people, always up for a laugh, heaps of fun and will try and be frinds with anyone they can because they are so sociable and outgoing. The other half of sags lie, play victim and backstab, and I can't stand them. One of these sags I can't stand also has a lot of Scorpio in her chart and is very manipulative and scheming. But she is a very good liar to those who she has around her little finger. But the 1st half of sags I mentioned have kind hearts and do show a little emotion, but prefer to show a smile instead. Being a Pisces guy, I can relate to that.

Answer 3

That is a long and interesting story but it is lacking in information. It is only told from your side and it doesn't seem to explain what was on her mind. You are looking for and answer but you did not say to what exactly. The story seems to have and abrupt ending that is your fault. I am sorry to say that to you. The story doe no have to have a sad ending bur that would mean you finding out what you could do to make the ending different. You two were supposed to be a compatible coup[le and I believe that is true if you communicated and mediated better.

Answer 4

Give us your birth information -hers and yours- that's the only way we can help you. Include time of birth and location of birth.
My heart goes out to you. You need some solid practical advice. Just off hand I'd say you need to make yourself get over this; right now you're giving in to the pain. You don't think you can control it but you can.

Answer 5

darling she got tired of waiting for you to propose to her.women dont want to shack up forever not if she really loves you.maybe she feels this relationship is going nowhere and that you are wasting her time.maybe she wants to be married and have babies you know money is not everything.and maybe cause you were gone so much she fell for someone else.you are the only one who really knows.i hope you can find happiness but it may not be with her.call her and talk about these things and then you will know what to do.good luck.