i have a hard time trusting my husband?

Question

ok this past weekend my husband went to pick up some car parts. I went home to indiana while he is in texas. Well i get home i cant get a hold of him and he isnt calling anyone i thought he was missing. Ok this happend friday no call sat. and late sunday i get a call. He went to dallas. He said he couldnt remember my phone number and thats why he didnt call. Then he said he spent the night there. Now he has these girls on his myspace and she lives close to where he went. Everytime i ask him if he cheated on me he saids he wouldn't do that i dont know what to think.

i have looked at his myspace before and he sent emails to some girls that i new he liked from basic saying hey cutie, you look cute to two different girls. I used to know this password then he changed it now he gets mad at me if i say i think he is cheating on me. Also right before i left he had a text on his his phone saying hey baby from a Sgt. from his old unit he said he doesn't know why she sent it and he talk to her a 2:50 am for 59mins and told me he was talking to her about our realtionship. Also i got up one morning and he wasn't there and he told me he fell asleep in his car at the gas station. i can i approach him with out him getting mad

Answer 1

Everyone is telling you to leave him and that's just sad. You haven't explained the situation very carefully, so it is impossible to really know what exactly has happened. You said that this weekend you went home to Indiana but then you said you got home and and he wasn't there. When exactly did you go to Indiana? How long were you gone? Was your husband expecting you back at a certain time? Do you two call each other every day when you're apart?

As for the phone number, I can't remember numbers. I have to have them written down. I never called my wife on my cell phone and the first time I went to call her, I realized that I didn't even have it stored in my cell. It was an honest mistake. I can't remember my own phone number either because I don't call myself. I'm not saying your husband's mistake is honest, just that people are very quick to cast him in the role of villain.

Try writing the whole thing down. Read it carefully. Go over the points to make sure that you are stating facts and not assumptions. Also make sure the language isn't agressive. Then ask him to read it. Explain to him before he reads it that you are asking him to read this because you are really concerned about your relationship. Any man worth his weight will take the time to read it thoroughly. Any man that refuses is questionable. Remember, don't accuse him of anything, just explain how all this makes you feel.

In the end, there may be perfectly good reasons for things happening the way they have. In any case, your relationship will either become stronger by doing this, or it will end quickly. Either way, you will be able to get on with your life quicker, without all the doubts.

Answer 2

Ok, when someone falls asleep in their car at a gas station, not only do attendants notice, but so do COPS. This is a great opportunity to give an idiot a ticket and a drug test.
Also, if the gas station is closed, muggers and carjackers are just dying to meet this sleeping victim. If they are open or closed, firetrucks and passing emergency patrols would have smashed his windows open and made sure he was alive.
Car parts can be ordered a lot cheaper than actually travelling to go pick them up, has he always told you he has to travel to distant spots to pick up car parts?
Let me tell you what to think..., YOUR HUSBAND IS A LIAR AND A CHEATER!!! I am sorry to say that you do not appear to be very intelligent. He also isn't very bright, unless he is drugging you and that is why you can't plainly see that this guy has your mind all twisted! GET HELP NOW.

Answer 3

He is up to no good! It is time to investagate and catch him red handed. You have to lay low and pretend nothing is bothering you. In about two or three weeks you set up something with a family member that you trust. You make arrangements to go back out of town for a whole week end. Get a car or borrow one from someone that he has never seen. Stay in the area and watch him. Then follow him and see what he is up to. You have to set him up and catch him. Also you could go on myspace and connect with him under an alis name and start talking with him for awhile. You could then offer to met him at hotel and met him there. He will be surprised when he finds you there. Then you will know what to think for sure and you will have proff of his intent. When he was in Dallas why did he not call information to get the number to where you were staying? Find out where he stayed in dallas and check to see if he was there somehow. if you could get into his myspace you could pretend that you are your husband and talk with the girl that lives near Dallas. You could possibly get some information out of her to find out if he met her. I'm sorry but you need to watch him.....there are to many STD'S out there. Good Luck Sweetie.

Answer 4

From what you are saying, it seems like to me that he is cheating.
How is he your husband, and gives you a sorry excuse such as he forgot your number,......come on now.
He will never admit that he is cheating, you basically have to catch him.
I would say for your sanity that you get out of this relationship, because it doesn't seem to be headed in the right direction.
He is playing you big time.
Why is he married to you, but has girls on his myspace page?
There are a lot of questions here???
Do yourself a favor and be with someone that you can trust.

Answer 5

He is lying to you how could he not remember your phone number what a lie he didn't call because he was laid up in bed with that chick all weekend. Tell him you don't believe him and tell him you want him to take a lie detector test if he blows up about it then you know he is lying if not he will say OK lets do it.
You know what you are allowing him to do this cancel your internet and remove the computer get the numbers off his phone if its a cell phone call and tell them you want them to send you an itemized phone bill for all the calls and phone numbers on that phone you may also be able to look it up on the net. Or you can tell him Exactly what it is HE IS A CHEATER AND KICK HIS SORRY A** TO THE CURB AND TELL HIM NOT TO COME BACK you can do better.

Answer 6

Man! I hate that Myspace! You have some reason to feel the way you do! My wife and I are on that site. I was on there first and had all sorts of girls on there. She did'nt like it and the girls had to go! I don't know my wife's cel phone # but I damn sure have it programed in my phone! (if I did'nt have a cel phone it would be on a big piece of paper in my walet!)
Tell him to get those girls off there! Its as simple as that! If he loves you he will do it!

Answer 7

No one here can tell you what he did....but I will say it is very suspicious, and trust me, no matter what he has done, he is going to deny it, period...no one who has a brain is going to own up to that one. You must decide whether you can put this down or not...it will lead only to bad places. If you do not put this down, you are going to corner him and it will get ugly...he really may not have done anything, yea...right...but so be it. The hardest thing about trust is keeping it...only if you put this down completely will you ever have trust again. It is better to trust and eventually be burned than to lose trust and live in misery, jealousy, and suspicion. Good luck, I hope it works out.

Answer 8

Well, it sounds a bit fishy, but you really have to trust before there is proof. I wouldn't believe that he forgot his own wife's phone number. FYI, Myspace almost tore up my marriage. He needs to get rid of that childish website.

Answer 9

You know what he is doing. If you don't trust him it is over. Don't remember your phone number for two days no way. A man knows his wife number unless something is wrong with him. I sure he did and you know what that problem is. (A WOMAN)

Answer 10

gosh....

put a fish in front of a cat, walk away and come back to see the fish gone... ask the cat if she ate it.. cat's gonna say 'no. meaw'


If you have extra cash in hand, hire a private detective, I believe the cost was about 2k ~5k. somewhere in between...
They say the best day to bust cheaters, is either on Valentines, or Christmas.

good luck.