My husband's kids ( Jordain 7 (today), Jocelynn 5, and Jacob 4 yrs old) have been wanting to see us and we've been wanting to see them but their bio mom won't allow for us or even him to visit the kids without HER supervision during the visitation, My husband and I have been struggling "her demands" for about 2 years now and I am wondering if the kids would be better off on down the road if we just laid low and let time pass for the kids to get old enough to make decisions on their own, and hopefully eventually they will want a relationship with thier dad and I? What should we do?
2007-04-27 10:24:14 · 8 answers · asked by Terry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, don't even think about waiting to down the road. Your main interest the child so the Father is one of the main things in their life. I have and still fighting just to see a grandson, yes, she to wants to supervise me and the Father, but I refuse to be disrepected due to wanting to see a child, that should be my God given right. Your Husband has as many rights as she does, and if it were me she would never forget it either. Even if he did give up, guess what she would harp on that and make your life miserable. Any children needs all the love they can get. This woman has to understand she can't control this, he helped make these children. You don't have to be hateful with her, just let her know it is unacceptable of the way she is treating the kids, she is hurting them only in this.
2007-04-27 11:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as long as you can see them, spend time with them at all, then the "how" shouldn't matter so much. You say you see them under her supervision, I know that must be annoying and maybe even infruriating, but if that's what allows you to see them, then keep doing it. WHatever is it the mother wants from you, the kids will be far better off and more kindly disposed toward their father if their parents were NOT fighting. Believe it or not, you can still have a relationship with the kids even if it's under supervision. Pehaps the reason the mother is being like this is because SHE is actually raising the kids, and needs some amount of control over the situation whereas the father keeps trying to gain control instead. Perhaps if he will simply give in to her "demands" she will stop trying to be so controlling.
I don't care what you think of her, if she lets you see the kids at all, then it isn't worth damaging the kids to keep fighitng over the details of the situation.
2007-04-27 10:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me, as a daughter of a father who made that choice when I was ten - DON'T abandon the kids!!
No matter how hard the mother is making it, trust me, the children will suffer badly if you walk away. Fight every step of the way to see those kids. They need and deserve a father, and will be damaged for life if they are rejected by him.
I haven't seen my father for 22 years. He turned his back on me and my brother because he thought it would be better all round. It wasn't. We suffered hugely. Don't do this to these children.
ps it's my daughter's birthday today too (8)!
2007-04-27 10:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I comprehend you adore your bf, yet your lacking the area have been deceived and lied to. Your boyfriend is a cheater, basically through fact it wasnt with a gurl doesnt advise it doesnt count type sweetie. All that element whilst he save sending you presents and stuff he could have popped in that little element that he became gay. Then whilst he have been given back he lied to you to make concerns worse asserting that became basically his buddy. So love him or not enable him pass your self worth relies upon on it through fact hes crying. He needless to say cares appropriate to the guy greater...In my opinnion you ought to have been carried out a protracted time in the past.
2016-10-13 22:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't stop fighting.......she will use that against you if you do. you need a lawyer, because he has rights to see his kids without her being there unless the court ordered supervised visitations.
If you stop fighting...the kids will see this as he does not love them or have anything to do with them ...... and if he tells them that he does....they will say well why didn't you keep fighting to see us.
2007-04-27 13:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to stop fighting for YOUR sake, or for the kids? If your husband stops seeing the kids, they'll forever feel as if he abandoned them. If you don't want to get the courts involved (or even a mediator), then he needs to do whatever it takes to stay in his childrens' lives, even if you find it inconvenient.
2007-04-27 10:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by Dena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would fight tooth and nail for my kids. Fight back, the ex may have won the battle but you and your husband need to win the war.
2007-04-27 10:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep fighting for them and never give up
2007-04-27 10:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋