K so I'm almost 16, and I have wanted to get my eyebrow pierced and snakebites (one on each side of bottom lip) for like the longest time but my mom keep telling me that if I want to be successfull in life that I shouldnt have piercings because it makes people look down on me. I'm absolutely not the emo/goth/punk type at all and I do look down on them sometimes so I know what she means and all but I really think they're cool. Part of my says **** it I dont care what people think of me. Its stupid that everyone is judged on appearance. I'm not some rebel punk teenager on drugs and I dont want people to percieve me that way but I cant help but try to convince my mom that once people get to know me and I'm successful, it won't matter if I have piercings. I'd never go over the top. just eyebrow and snakebites Its not like Im telling her I want to be a punk or anything. I'm still going to be the same person just with a couple extra holes in my face.
2007-04-27 10:08:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
forget all that inner beauty crap that Barney taught you as a kid, the fact is that as popular as tats and holes have gotten they are still not main stream (at least visible ones).
Your appearance is the first thing people see, no one can tell your personality from across a crowded room, and while you can make up for it and prove your a good person once they get to meet you, the fact is that by having 'extra holes in your face' they have already formed an opinion from when you walked in the door, and any good they see in you after talking is still making up ground that you lost with your looks.
You even say yourself "once people get to know you", how many possible employers, parents of dates, and even maybe dates will dismiss you as all the things you say your not, because you see the things your not, yet are actively trying to look like them, and pass on you, not giving you the chance to prove who you really are.
people are shallow and it sucks, but the fact remains that by puncturing your face you are actively seeking to be (like)something your not you are allowing them to put you with those that you aren't.
I ask you, if you know your NOT Emo/punk/goth, but you yourself associate the piercing you want with them, why do you want to look like them, if you are in fact not?
that said, you're young, and they seem like holes that would grow shut again in time, so do what you gotta do, just know that you are setting yourself up for having to make up for lost ground by doing it
2007-04-27 10:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by janssen411 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is correct that if you have piercings then people will look at you differently. Some will look down on you, others may just think you are different but their opinions don't really matter. What does matter is that in the future when you are looking for employment you will be seen as less "professional". You are fine for the next few years, but once you are inyour twenties you would be much better off removing the piercings. Its not right, its not usually accurate, but unfortunently thats the way the business world is right now and it't not likely to change any time soon. The same things tends to happen to short or overweight people.
2007-04-27 10:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by winter_jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you living under her roof and not giving any money towards bills? If so then she has the right to lay down the law. Now, if you are working and or helping with expenses, then she needs to gradually start treating you like a roommate even though she is still your parent. If you are not paying expenses, then try making a deal with your mom. Tell her that you are a legal adult now and would be happy to help pay expenses in exchange for her letting go some. Oh, just make sure the job you get allows piercings if you really want the snakebites. I have angelbites (the ones done on top) and I love them. I'm also 32. Also, something as small as dying your hair at 18 she should really get over. However, it's hard for some parents to see their kids as legal adults even when they live away from them. She may be old school, but she needs to respect that you may not want to be so much. And at your age that is normal. You may start to have conflict with her now that you are getting ideas about who you want to be. In that case, you may need to save up money and move out.
2016-05-20 18:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time, people have acclimated themselves to body piercings. Its gotten to the point where they are almost normal. Your mom probably won't let you get them because of a school policy, you might have to check.
BTW, I love that White Pages commercial where the dad assimilates into his son's counter culture way and the son says "I hate my life".
2007-04-27 10:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by germaine_87313 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want them get them, you can just take the piercings off later on.
2007-04-27 12:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by late.dawns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say do it while you are young. I am lucky I have a great job with people who accept my facial peircings
2007-04-27 10:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋