The ex and I were married for four years. The marriage was annulled due to personal reasons. My current husband is the father of my son, and when I was married to the ex, he would be at the house occasionally to see our son. So obviously my husband now had met my ex. They got along fine but my current husband always knew that the ex was a horrible person.
Just before the ex went to jail, he had made some threats to me and my husband. Now the ex has called me and wants me to forgive him for all he has done in the past.
Should I tell my husband? .... Should I forgive the ex? (He is in jail for 20 something odd years, so tech. I don't feel like I have to do much. I sure as hel1 wouldn't ever go visit him.)
2007-04-27 10:03:08 · 35 answers · asked by Mrs. K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if it was the other way around, would you want your husband to tell you? would you want to build your relationship in lies? are you hiding something from him-in relation to this call? i would tell him because lies eats up the relationship just like termites in a home.
2007-04-27 10:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by ♥NF♥N♥TY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your husband that the ex has called, but I wouldn't forgive him. You have a son with your current husband. That is what really matters. You get involved with the ex in any way you will have nothing but problems. You don't owe the guy that's in for 20 yrs.+ anything at all. Keep your marriage strong.
2007-04-27 10:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Joe S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hie Mrs Kristy. Well to me it is diffcult for you due to your annulled marrige and it is difficult for you to get rid of him on the spot but he is the father of the child and he also has the rights for him to see the child but since now he is in jail so i don't think it is better for the child to see or speak although he had already meet the real father, Just keep it a secreat from your son saying that his real father had already gone and this could give him be really close to your current husband. When he call to ask forgiveness I think iti si better for you to forgive and don't ever ask him to call again and try to forget him and you should also let your current husband knows about this too, it is good result that you have made not to go and see him but if still keeps calling you again thern i think it is better to change your number and let your current husband cut his his friendship between him right now or not if he gets the chance to come out he,you and your child might be in a real trouble, if he gets the chance to see you i guess it ts better for you to just ignore him or just make a don't know sign about him. Try this maybe it could help you...........
ALL THE BEST.........
2007-04-27 10:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The definition of anullment is a marriage that was not consumated.........after 4 years???
Why would your x come around to see your son?
Your x has made threats to you and your current husband.
Why on earth did you accept his phone call???
And would you consider forgiveness? Do you feel he's all of sudden turned over a new leaf?
I dont understand any of the above.
In your shoes I would be careful for the sake of you, your husband, & your son.
And by all means tell your husband. UNLESS you have something to hide. Most important, do NOT accept any further calls from your X. You owe him NOTHING.
You owe your husband respect.
2007-04-27 10:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure forgive him because life is no good if we can't forgive people for their mistakes. However, let your husband know about the phone call, you would'nt want him to find out any other way besides from your own mouth. Tell the truth & act happy to tell him so that he wont think anything else is going on.
2007-04-27 10:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Aznb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should forgive your Ex, because just maybe he has learned something by going to jail and he wants to make ammends with the people he hurt. Dont go see him EVER, but tell him you forgive him...
As far as your husband goes, it's really not neccesary to tell him, he really shouldn't be involved in it, and he probably doesn't want to be....I would just tell the EX you forgive him, but dont continue to talk to him, and tell him to respect your relationship with your husband by not calling.
2007-04-27 10:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by nanalynnminn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband and forgive the ex but avoid the ex as well because he is your ex and obviously isn't the best of people.
2007-04-27 10:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell your husband.
And...why in the world would accept a call from your ex in jail...because they have to tell you who is calling before they put the call through?
He made threats? Forgive him...but don't forget and learn from it.
Tell your husband what is going on and do not accept any more calls from him.
jeese...
2007-04-27 10:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhh, why did your ex want to see a kid that wasn't even his own? Maybe that has something to do with his 20 year stretch, know what I'm saying. Tell your husband, but don't be scheduling no conjugal visits though.
2007-04-27 10:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell your husband. If he looks at the phone bill he will see that you accepted the phone call. So just tell him, what you told us. What would the purpose of hiding this accomplish?
Forgive him, if you want to. No skin off your nose if you do or don't.
2007-04-27 10:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Would tell the husband...guys like women to be honest...yeah he might get mad at first (if he even does) but im almost 100% sure he will realize you were doing the right thing and didnt want to hide or keep anything from him.
2007-04-27 10:07:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋