How do you feel about premartial sex and living together before marriage and why?
2007-04-27 08:37:18 · 20 answers · asked by swindlebobby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think question depends a lot on a persons religion.
I lived with my husband before we got married. I think its a good thing, you get to see what its like living with them, being with them all the time, their bad habits, etc. It gives you a sneak peak into what you are about to commit to for the rest of your life!
2007-04-27 08:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by glamorous 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I believe that's the way God intended it to be, but most of us don't go that route, if you decide to wait, more power to you dude. The living together thing, I don't think it's good for marriage, sometimes you end up not even trying to get married after a while because it's like you are already without the legal commitment.
2007-04-27 08:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. So individual. I thought about living with him prior to marriage, but we both just looked at each other and said, "naw" we KNOW what we want...so we married. Yeah, we did have premarital sex a few times after the engagement, but then decided to put the brakes on till we were married 6 months later. Glad we did...no real reason other than we felt it was the right thing to do. The nicest part...these decisions were JOINT decisions, not his, not mine singularly - but agreements we came to - TOGETHER.
Goodluck, I must say, "one size does not fit all" in this matter...as you will find from the answers of others...
Sincerely,
Grace
2007-04-27 08:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its down to the individuals, but I believe in pre marital sex and living together before getting married.
You cant know a person entirely untill living together and why get married until you know for sure that you are with the right person?
2007-04-27 08:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by §P¡©ë¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in a way i think that the living together is ok, because than you get to know how to work together and stuff before you completely commit to each other, but the sex that is totally up to how you and the girl feel together and if your think your ready. there is always the possabilty of having a kid, so i would say only have sex with them if you think your ready and could realyl see yourselfs being together in the future...
2007-04-27 08:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by Becca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had premarital sex, and sometimes I wished I would have waited. I shacked up with my man before marriage, and we almost broke up. If you plan to marry the person, never shack up. It will deteriorate the relationship. We bickered over stupid things that didn't even matter. You want to act like you are married when it benefits you, but not when doesn't. Best bet, wait to your married before living together.
2007-04-27 08:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
premarital sex is a given these days for some reaosn. i think if you go a month before the wedding without it will still give you the same effect. i lived with my husband first and wished i hadnt. its better to learn everything once you are married so there is still something new in the relationship. otherwise whats the point of getting married?
2007-04-27 08:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal choice. Although according to stats, there is a better percentage of those staying married who haven't lived together as opposed to the other. It may be an unpopular opinion, but those are the facts.
2007-04-27 09:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel normal about all of the above. Premarital sex is not a big deal, as is living together. Whatever feels right to the individual.
2007-04-27 08:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a very smart thing to do, I mean this is the rest of your life you're talking about here! And you never REALLY know someone til you've lived with them. You could turn out to be polar opposites in regards to housekeeping- its better to find these things out now as opposed to when you are married.
2007-04-27 08:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋