Who's at fault: Alec Baldwin, Kim Basinger, or the California Divorce Courts?

Question

After watching Alec Baldwin explain himself and his situation on The View to Rosie O'Donnell and Barbara Walters this morning I can conclude that the legal system is a beast and every blood-sucking lawyer will effectively separate their
client(s) from his and/or her assets. Then they will say it's over. It's true that the man gets the short end of the stick in custody battles in California divorce courts. It's clear that Kim Basinger is USING her daughter to get revenge on her ex. That is very sad. If my ex-wife disobeyed three court orders in a row and it prevented me from seeing my child I would be exasperated myself.

What he said what out of frustration. The fact that he is devoting all of his time to fixing the divorce courts earns my respect.

Answer 1

It isn't that I disagree with you. We are all human and of course the courts are all screwed up. However, despite everything you've mentioned, Mr. Baldwin has no right to speak to a child in the harsh, threatening manner that he did. There is a fine line between love and hate and on this occasion, he let hate get the better of him. Where two wrongs don't make a right, his behavior remains as totally inappropriate. Frustration and a bad temper is not an acceptable excuse. I hope his daughter can forgive him.

Answer 2

Kim Basinger has said right from the beginning that the reason she divorced Alec Baldwin was because of his uncontrolled temper. Kim is only doing what any good mother would do in a case like that, and trying to protect her daughter from a verbally abusive man. If you really listened to Alec Baldwin this morning, he never once said he was sorry that he called his daughter those names. He spent more time spewing hatred for his ex-wife. If anyone is a "rude thoughtless pig" here, it's Alec Baldwin.

Answer 3

All three are at fault. The court systems makes it very easy for women to use kids against fathers. At the same time Baldwin should have been smarter than to leave that kind of voice mail message

Answer 4

Of course he has an anger problem. Wouldn't you if you had to go to court every other week just to see your child. He is that little girls Father. He has every right to have as much access to her as his ex-wife. Ms. Bassinger is a lonely, vindictive woman who can not get over her divorce. She knows the only way to torment her ex-husband is their child. This happens a lot of the time in divorces. The courts see this and do nothing. Also I would like to say to all of you that are saying poor little girl. Mr. Baldwin is raising his child as he sees fit. If his child was rude and ungrateful he has every right and most definately should correct the problem. I listened to the tape. He said he was going to come up there and straighten out the situation. That is exactly what he needed to do. Now we all know that we have yelled at our children at one time or another. So what is the problem with him doing it. Picture this scenario. You are at your local Walmart doing the grocery shopping and your child is having a temper tantrum. What are you going to do? You are going to correct your childs behavior as you see fit. But wait here I come down the aisle and I don't like what you are doing to correct the situation so I stick my nose in it without knowing what the situation is. What will your response be. Will you apologize to me for the way you raise your child? I think not. Will you tell me off and loose your temper I think so. My husband has been dealing with an ex-wife who pulls the same crap as Ms. Bassinger. He has not spoken or seen his children in over 5 years because of her. He pays child support every week giving her 50% of his income. The courts agree what she is doing is wrong but will do nothing to rectify the situation. The last time he tried calling his son for his birthday she snatched the phone from their son in the middle of the coversation and told him never to call this f---en house again. She then went to the district attorneys office the next day and put a restraining order against him. His only offense was divorcing her and marrying me.

Answer 5

They both are at fault. They should have shared custody and no complaints. Its 50/50. They are both good parents and I think Kim worked too hard to try to get Alec out of her life and daughters life completely and that is wrong. He is not a terrible father. It could be much worse.

Answer 6

The CA divorce courts are allowing themselves to be
used by Kim Basinger and her daughter....
I do not like Alec Baldwin but I must support him on this...

Answer 7

I think Alec has an anger-management issue, but that he truly loves his daughter and is extremely hurt that she is avoiding him.

How would you feel if you had a child far away and at agreed upon times for phone calling, they switched off the phone? That is a very passive agressive way of saying don't call me and I'm sure it hurts.

I have a friend whose ex-wife convinced children he is no good. They told him "we have no father" and cut off contact. He is still very hurt by this....years later. Not to mention he did what he could with visit, child support etc... they just told him to stop. He remarried and is great father to his step-kids.

Answer 8

We have ALL lashed out at our kids---- there are no perfect parents anywhere on the face of this earth. I believe Kim Bassinger was totally wrong for her and her lawyer to leak that tape to the world but I hear she is one whack job. I totally support Alec Baldwin on this.

Answer 9

I'd say from what I've heard and read, whoever makes it worse for the child, in this case, her mother is to blame. I've read some things on her over the years, and I don't think she's the most stable person. My guess is when their daughter gets old enough, she'll go and do her own thing and leave this mess in the dust. This will then leave her parents to more arguing, but so be it.

Answer 10

Every parent says something to their children that they shouldn't some times. It is a part of life. We are all human, and will make mistakes. The difference is, what we say is not put up for public debate the way this case has been...

My grandma used to get so frustrated when I would cry...she did not know how to deal with it, so she told me I was ugly when I cried because she thought it would make me stop...
I have long since forgiven her, but she still feels guilty for it...
Like I said, everyone is human, and humans make mistakes.