i would like to get a divorce but i have alot of expenses right now and am in school and not working should i wait it out until i can support myself he is not abusive he is a cheater.
2007-04-27 07:32:09 · 20 answers · asked by hcj25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I divorced my husband in the middle of paramedic school...he took the car, the dog, and I was stuck with the mortgage and bills...my only saving grace was that I was still working full time.
How far until you are done school? If it's just a few more months, I'd say wait it out, but if we are talking years until you graduate, then you should divorce him. I know it's tough, but you owe it to yourself not to be stuck with a cheater for the next 2-3 years and it's only fair to him to let him out of the relationship, now that you've decided it's not going to work.
Can you cut back to part time at school, while you find a job and get back on your feet? Is your husband considerate enough to stick around and help pay the bills until you get out of school? During the divorce, you might consider asking for alimony to help you out through school. Is moving in with a friend or a parent an option?
Usually, if you put off the divorce, you will find reasons to stick around...I've got a friend who's been talking about getting a divorce ever since I met her 5 years ago...whenever we discuss it, she always has some excuse.
Hope this helps...
2007-04-27 07:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is a form of abuse. Get out now. I left my husband and believe me it was the best thing I ever did. Like you I was worried about money, but I got a student loan and a part time job. I also moved in with another girl so that I could save on expenses. We split everything down the middle, except for little special "treats" that she or I wanted. As for the divorce itself, I didn't worry about that. The divorce came down the line when he decided to get married to someone else. I just told him A - I could care less if I got a divorce right now and B - I didn't have the money. I told him if he wanted a divorce that bad right now, then he would have to pay for it or wait until I had some money. He did want it that bad, and he did pay.
2007-04-27 09:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Paulette S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For better or for worse
But biblically, adultery is the only reason you can divorce so I think its safe to say that everyone will be saying go!
If you have a religion, pray over it before making a decision.
If you think you want it to work, do what others have done FIGHT for him (Not the physical sense) if nothing changes or hes overly resentful in your meddling, then back up and go, if he is non-abusive, then there is no thing as a "bad time".
If he is abusive there is a bad time and you should seek help from professional that are trained in this and know what works and what doesnt.
2007-04-27 07:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by avengress 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well there is no best time to get a divorce. I would say try to get your things in order asap, and if you could find a job to support yourself while you are in school. He may be entitled to money after you get your degree, because he supported you while in school. So, it would be best to try to do it before you get that degree. Also, check with a divorce lawyer they can really help you out.
2007-04-27 07:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Linda J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you can get him to agree with the divorce you can start a divorce without a lawyer for a lot less. It's called an uncontested divorce. It's the most common divorce filing.
2007-04-28 19:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by dorwin29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no good time, and you don't "need" him for anything. Go talk to a lawyer, as you may be able to make your husband help pay for some of the expenses if you incurred them during your marriage. Everything will work out, just be proactive and get your ducks in a row. Good luck.
2007-04-27 07:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by julesl68 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your best bet is to get a divorce right away and make him pay for it because he is the one who cheated BUT... If you want to get even with the filthy snake, stay with him and use him for the financial support that he brings you until you are financially stable enough to go it alone. Good luck.
2007-04-27 07:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can go to your local agency to get help with the paying of the divorce but if you are really wanting to get out of it go get a job at your school or somewhere else so you can pay for your bills and get it done.
2007-04-27 07:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is never a good time to get divorced. people get divorced way to easily these days and never want to try and make things work. i think it is horrible that you are thinking of sticking around just for financial reasons. that is horrible
2007-04-27 07:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by DANIELLE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to wait till you can support yourself. im not sure how old you are but maybe moving back with your parents would be a good idea. Just until you get back and settled on your feet again. Atleast that would get you away from him. Good luck.
2007-04-27 07:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋