My husband has been working out of town for the past 5 weeks. Normally he comes home on the weekend but chose to go to Nascar this past weekend rather than come home. He doesnt always answer my calls so I checked his voice mail one day. There was a message from a girl from his past on there talking about meeting up. She lives south of where he is. (I am north) If he can make plans to meet up with her I figure he can come home to be with me and our 3 kids. He also lied to my 11 year old and told her that he put money in my account and he did not. We have been married for 13 years and its been a pretty rocky marriage. What would you do in my situation? Oh yeah... he is a control freak and likes to turn things around on me so they apear to be my fault.
In the past he has had problems with drugs and made it so that we ended up homeless. I am not willing to go through that again. I don't have a support group that I belong to and really dont have many friends nearby.
2007-04-27 07:29:31 · 22 answers · asked by Rosie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Homeless? And you stayed with this asshole?
Are you that stupid? I mean seriously, all it would take for me to leave his stupid *** would be the fact that he was even USING drugs, addicted or not he doesn't respect himself OR YOU.
You don't need friends. You have yourself. DIVORCE HIS ***, take the house and the kids, and let him live with whoever it is he's seeing on the side. He deserves it.
2007-05-05 03:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by bostongirl_1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Fiance is in the army so he goes away a lot of the time, at the moment he is in Afghan. Hes been gone 3 months so far. When he goes the first day is awful and I cry loads and think how can I do this! But I do, Were IN Love and I would wait for him always, hes the man I want to spend my life with and I believe when you truly love someone you can get through anything. I find keeping busy is the thing to do otherwise you will be mopping around and get sad and lonely and that's what i used to do but now I work all the week, come home and then chill and check me emails etc and then the weekends I try and keep busy by shopping, seeing friends and going out. You need to talk to someone otherwise your go crazy. I invite others over and have good nights. Just think to yourself that soon he will be home to you and it will be amazing. Keep busy and think of the times ahead when hes home hunnie. Hope Ive kinda helped? x
2016-05-20 15:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, You can do bad by yourself no woman needs a man to help her with that! I scares me that your 13 year old is being talked too about the family finances. She should not have any idea how things are and what is or is not in your account. You need to think and think hard. What do you want out of life and how do you plan to get it? You need to talk to someone and get to a church or other single parent program. That is what you are. You are married but he lives somewhere else and would rather go see a
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Than be with his own children. You have 3 children, think does this man have a positive or negative influence in their lives. Best of luck to you sweetie, You have a hard road to hoe.
2007-05-03 11:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by flateach33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's easier said than done, but you need to move on, and move out. Let him realize that your strong enough to leave because if you stayed with him through the drugs and the homelessness, then he probably figures your too weak to make it on your own and you'll probably stay with him no matter what!! Good Luck!! I'm sure there will plenty of family and friends to support your decision when you decide that this isn't what you want.
2007-05-03 02:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids come first. I would say nothing to him. He is not a good husband and his drug problem caused you to be homeless. You are still with him. He knows your not going anywhere. Get your life together with the kids and dump this looser. He is not going to change as he feels there is no problem. You can do better alone then with someone who is dragging you down. Go to your church, or YWCA in your area for support. They can help you find a job or at least build up your self esteem.
2007-05-04 07:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 years,pretty long and good enough for you to know something is cooking. So gal, you smell a rat there is probably one in the house. Confront him about it(am sure he has answers) but it ussually worries a man when he know the wife know what going on.And let the kids know if any need let them ask him about the money when he is around. Most of all dont give up its your right to know the truth you have a life you know and your life is not to spent worring about other peoples lifes.
Wish you all the best.
2007-05-04 00:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your plans quietly and accordingly. You're a fool for hanging around, control freak or not.
You have plenty of avenues to take here. You're an adult so start looking. You shouldn't have to have someone take you by the hand to help you work this out. Once everything is in place and he's gone again, pack up your stuff, grab the kids and screw. leave no forwarding address and divorce him from afar.
2007-04-27 07:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what's best for your children. I believe that kids trump husband, especially when you think he may be cheating and into old habits. Document everything,and get out. The alternative is to stay and maybe end up homeless with an addict.
2007-05-04 04:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the recording. Document everything, don't let him know anything.
Seek family counseling first, preferably with a minister that has experience with this sort of thing.
Several things you wrote put up red flags.
I hate to say it, but you may end up apart from him completely if the two of you cannot agree to work through all the problems.
2007-04-27 07:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jed 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is obviously not dependable. You have 3 kids that should be your top priority. If he is running around with a girl from his past and has done all this other stuff to you in the past and been so irrisponsible that he left you and his kids homeless you need to kick him out and file for divorce. Your kids need you to be strong and you need to be strong for them. If you need anyone to talk to you can e-mail me. I dont know where you live but i live in texas if you live around there ill be ur friend. but e-mail me anytime. Good luck!! Be strong!
2007-04-27 07:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋