I know some use condoms & they might have broken or something, but I can't help & get ANGRY that they could be so careless still. They are ruining their LIVES all b.c they were not cautious about their actions. It totally pisses me off big time. If it gets a stranger angry about it then it must get a close relative of theirs EVEN MORE angry.
Why sacrifice their free youthful days to a agonizing child caring responsiblity?
2007-04-27 06:07:46 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
They think they can't get pregnant or get an STD if they have unprotected sex.
They have nothing better to do.
Their friends are going around having sex and are pregnant.
Most of their friends have kids so they think they can make babies as well.
They don't realize the reponsibility of being pregnant and having kids.
It's uncool to be a virgin in middle and high school now a days.
They are afraid they'll lose their boyfriends if they don't have sex with them.
2007-04-27 07:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it's mostly a mix of what the other (mature) posts have said. This is a changing world and unfortunately children are having sex earlier and earlier. I was pregnant just after I turned 14. It was a mix of me being unconfident (part of why I was having sex in the first place, because I thought men would like me more), not knowing the real consequences (money, time, life, etc), and not being educated on the realities of parenthood (thought I couldn't get pregnant the first time, how ridiculous is that!). The father was a drug dealer and not a good person, and didn't find out until about 5 years later when I looked him up to tell him. I would not have gotten an abortion but probably would have adopted had I not miscarried. Looking back, I didn't know how to properly take care of myself & baby which is probably the reason I miscarried. I think the best solution, though nothing is perfect or will ultimately solve this problem, would be to educate, and encourage parents & teachers to speak to children about this with HONESTLY. Now I have cancer and unfortunately will not be able to bear my own children, but look forward to adopting a child in a couple years once my health problems (hopefully) subside.
2007-04-27 06:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by giacarangi_99 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not trying to be disrespectful, but not everyone sees children as an "agonizing" responsibility. Some teenagers just WANT a child to have. Someone to love them, especially if they've been rejected by an ex-boyfriend, parent, etc.
Others, it just happened from having sex because that IS something that comes from sex. If it's suppose to happen, then it'll happen. No ifs or buts about it.
And then even OTHERS, had no choice in the sense that they were raped or had sex and chose not to sacrifice the child by abortion. They could have put the child to adoption but my theory is, if you have already gone through labor and nine months of caring the child, then why give them up? Unless they know that the child would be better in someone elses hands. It all depends on a persons way of thinking. And trust me, there's a lot of people's thinking that is beyond me.
2007-04-27 06:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Nightdreamer32 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Teens get pregnant because they decide their are ready to have sex and yes the condom may break or they may not wear one and it results in a pregnancy or even an STD but that is not your problem...
Second i do not see having a child at a young age as an agonizing responsibility and it's pretty sad you feel that way, having a child is a precious gift....I myself got pregnant at 15 years old unfortunately i lost him when i was 6 months pregnant, i lived with my fiance, we had a house, i worked and went to school, i raised my friends baby from the time she was 1 month til the time she was 3 years old on my own((the mother had me raise the child because she was not able too)) and i thought it was great....Just because a teen gets pregnant does not mean her life is ruined, yes they are gonna have a harder life than most but anyone can handle it, it's called taking resposibility..I have known about 5 different teens who were pregnant and did not have the father around and they continued to go to school, work, pay all their bills and suceeded in everything they wanted to do and have a wonderful life with wonderful children.....
Quite worrying about other people and focus on yourself, what other people do is not your business, If they want to have sex then let it be, if they end up pregnant it is their problem not your so why you worrying about it?
Mind your own business!
2007-04-27 06:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by Kasja 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Wow. You associate raising a child with an agonizing responsibility. That's kind of sad, because I never though of it as agonizing. Actually I loved raising my son and still do. And I can't wait to have this child that I am pregnant with right now.
Teenagers get pregnant because they have sex. I was pregnant at 20 and I wouldn't have changed it for anything in the world. I think that having a child at a younger age is easier both physically and mentally. I am now 33 pregnant with my 2nd child and this pregnancy in the beginning was very difficult. I am not looking forward to running around after a toddler with my sciatica issues and arthritis in my knees. Though I am positive that I will handle it just fine. I was able to associate with my son more then a woman who had her first kid in her later child rearing years.
I never look down on someone having a child. Good parents come in all different shapes, sizes, colors and ages. And having a child doesn't mean that you gave up on things, you are just experiencing life with a different perspective. I still had fun and went to Europe a couple of time, once with my son. The only reason a child would hold you back is if you 1. allow the child to and 2. look at it like that.
2007-04-27 06:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 9⤊ 2⤋
Things happen and there's nothing the teen or anyone else can do about it. Yeah maybe they were careless but they cant change it. The thing that makes me mad is not teens who have babies but people who have abortions because they dont want to face the consequences of their actions (when everyone knows VERY well that if you have sex, you run the risk of getting pregnant!) And people who use abortion as a form of birth control. That's just wrong! At least some teens are smart enough to actually keep their kids and try to raise them or adopt them out. They might be giving up carefree youthful days but at least their giving those innocent babies a chance at life!
2007-04-27 06:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
wow you need to take a chill pill women. What are you so mad at just because a girl had sex and had a baby yea there are some girls out there doing this and that and dont care if they got pregnant. I mean hey im a mother to a little girl and im GLAD! Im proud of what my life has turned out like with her in it. I dont know where i would be today if it wasnt for her. I was on the patch and it didnt work so i was trying NOT to get pregnant but like i said im glad i had my daughter. Some girls cant help it because a lot dont believe in abortion and dont want someone else raising their child, so i mean what happens if they were raped? Did you ever think about that?
2007-04-27 06:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
HEY,,,THAT WASNT COOL OF YOU AT ALL.....I dont agree with young girls having children either but let me tell you that I got pregnant at 15 had her at 16. I was dating the same guy since I was 12 until I was almost 18....its not like all these teens go whoring around and just get pregnant...and by the way, I was on birth control AND using condoms which did not break...how it happened is beyond me, but you know what, God obviously had that planned....Mary had Jesus at 16...Also, My mother was in shock for 3 days, not mad but in shock and she loves my daughter more than life itself...now I am 24, married, my daughter and 3 step children, I am a probation officer, my husband is a IT manager, and my children have a wonderful life...and I grew up in poverty.......so nobody has any right to talk about these topics in such a careless way........what?? did you think that we did it on purpose? No, I know I didnt. And yes, sometimes I am sure I know that I should have waited, that things would have been different, but if you have your mind right and your goals straight...a child will actually get you in gear and get you going....I know it may not make sense to some, but without my daughter, living the life i had a child, abused, neglected, molested, and poor, I am sure I would be a drug addict sitting in a crack house hadnt god sent her to me...she was my life saver, and I am proud of her no matter what age I was.......and I will always stand tall when I say I had her at 16....she saved my life.
2007-04-27 06:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by College~~Bound 3 · 10⤊ 2⤋
The problem will never go away or be reduced if everyone does not accept the fact as humans teens ARE sexual beings. Teens have and always will have sex. Many feel pretending they do not or withholding reproductive & contraceptive info works. Ignorance by everyone is why teens become pregnant.
2007-04-27 07:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Are you really that blind. I'm 16 I'm 14weeks and 5 days pregnant(YAY!!!!) I am completley happy I am not throwing my life away actually this baby saved my life it got me out of a place that wasn't safe I had a responsibility so I left my "Moms" house yes my moms it was no were I wanted to be pregnant or raise my child. I wasn't in school when I was at my moms she made me stay home clean watch her kids I've been staying home watching my lil sister since I was in 7th grade I'm the one who woke up in the middle of the night and took care of her when I had school the next morning my mom would wake up and bring her to me. I was cautiouse I was a mistake but a beautiful one but I made all the right choices I'm in school I'm with the father we live together not on any access were engaged and plan to live and build a life together. AND your wrong my family well the ones who know are supportive and happy that I left my moms and that I'm doing the right ting and going to take care of this precious gift god gave me and you know what I wouldn't change a thing I love this baby I want this baby and I will be a wonderful MOTHER not teen mother just MOTHER ok!!!!!!!
2007-04-27 06:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by ?????? 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋