Someone said to me the other day that kids from broken families (ie - divorced parents) never turn out ok or as good as they would if they grew up in a "traditional" family.
Do u agree?
2007-04-27 05:26:38 · 22 answers · asked by only_lil_kez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
nope....that's wrong...i came from a broken family....that made me raise mine better than i was raised.....some kids go off the rails but sometimes things like being in a broken family can turn you into a better person, it depends on how you handle it, some kids lose direction..others survive and make their lives better....that's what i did, i made my life better so i could make my kids lives good...and i make sure i have my family around me every single day so i don't make the same mistakes as my parents did...traditional families can be the same, there's no such thing as the "perfect family"...so between both broken and traditional...i would say it's about the same, it depends on the person and how they deal with it
2007-04-27 08:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes sense that if you give a child a broken home and a bad upbringing, then they're going to be full of insecurities and problems. I was such a child and yes, I can see how it has affected me. The best thing you can do is bring up children in a two-parent, loving financially stable home.
Unfortunately it's not always possible and as parents, we do the best we can.
Stastics will show you that children in trouble are far more likely to come from a damaged background.
Common sense says too, that if you're worrying aobut your love life, etc you don't have the time and the patience to spend on your children that you should do.
So yes, I agree with that statement - it doesn't mean every child is going to turn out wrong, but a child from a broken home has been short changed. I too am divorced, and if I had had more confidence, I don't think I would have made the mistakes I did make.
2007-04-27 06:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont agree i came from a broken family my parents divorced a year after i was born. I have lived with both before but now mum is dead my dad abandoned me but that hasn't affected me really not even in relationships as i haven't had paents together. My parents hated each other but i have turned out the opposite to both i have become extremily successful for an 18 year old. I have 2 jobs go to college as well and have a flat with my fiance. I think it has made me see life in a better way instead of being full of hate like my parents i am full of love.
So i really dont agree with you as i am doing better than some people my age that grew up in a traditional family.
2007-04-27 10:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen it go both ways. The truth is kids from "traditional" families often don't turn out so "good" either. So, it really depends on how the family is handling the situation. All adults involved need to make an effort to ensure there is good communication, bonding, time shared, etc.
2007-04-27 05:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by magartista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that as long as the parent they are with does everything to make the child feel safe and secure and lets them know they are loved.....There's no reason why they can't have a normal if not better childhood. I know some kids who come from a traditional home and there parents never even let them know that they love them. Half the time they would rather be at my house with my mom and I.
2007-04-27 05:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i seriously dont agree, my children never had a father much and we divorced quite a few years ago. they dont have much contact with him. if a child has one or two parents doesnt make a difference, its how theyre brought up. i had to live on benefits for a long time but we managed, my son got a scholarship in engineering at school, all of my three children are happy polite and careing. im sure there are many many kids that havnt turned out very good with both parents in their lives, and just as many more with a single parent that have.
2007-04-27 05:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by toni c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. My partner and I were always arguing, sometimes in front of the children. They picked up on the aggression and they became aggressive too. We decided to split, and for the last 3 years, they have been much calmer and better towards each other. In my case, a broken family is better than a traditional one.
2007-04-28 03:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Caveman's daughter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that is true. What matters is that morals and values are taught and that the child has good role models both male and female.
Do you think just because there is a mother and father in the same home the child will grow up OK? Sometimes its a more dysfunctional situation.
I, by the way, am married to my wonderful hubby for 16 years and have 4 children.
2007-04-27 05:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by pamomof4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While statisticians and politicians can produce evidence to prove anything that they want, the truth is usually completely different. There really does appear to be no difference in whether a child from a broken home will achieve any more or less well than one from a non broken home. I have concluded that broken home children generally have more difficulty getting themselves into relationships though. I do.
2007-04-27 08:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im from a broken family and i think i turned out better that others that still have there family together, i think its a load of rubbish if you want to get anywhere in life you put the effort in.
ive done 4 courses at college and just won a merit so i dont think im doing too bad if anything i think you learn more and do your best to not make mistakes like your parents, i know ur gonna make mistakes but you still learn from them
2007-04-27 05:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by chris s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋