I told him in an hour-and-a-half long converstion on Wednesday. It wasn't neccesarily graceful, but it wasn't bad. He knew for a while. He's not mad or freaked out or anything, but he politely let me know he's straight and he turned me down. The bad thing is, I actually let myself fall in love for him, so that means I only crashed harder. It's like, "Hey, I fell in love with you, and I'm hurt because of it. When did this happen, and how do I make it stop?" This pain... it's too much. How can I stop it without going insane?
2007-04-27 05:21:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
time...seriously...there is no real way to get over someone except to give it time...go out with friends and have a good time...you might meet someone else, but dont rush it....i know that you have feelings for him, and that you probably feel part humiliated, but atleast he is still your friend and didnt get offended :) and who knows, maybe one day he will change his mind...but i wouldnt put all my eggs in that basket, so to speak....you just have to do like everyone else and move on...sorry, i dont have any better advice than that :)
2007-04-27 05:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by Cinna 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
35 years and I'm still not over him. With time and effort we became friends and now have a wonderful relationship.
You don't say how old you are or if he is the first that you have fallen for, but my guess is you are between 13 &18 and he is your first. Remember our minds and our figuretive hearts are the seat our ability to love. Time "heals all things"; Love for someone does not "heal" however. You must direct it so you become a better person for the experience and gain from the relationship with new found friend.
If you sit back and look at yourself you will see a beautiful person who has a lot to give. Take advantage of the love for your fellow human beings. One day you will find that special someone and be able to grow together as a fine and loving couple.
Oh and yes have fun, be safe, use protection.
2007-04-27 05:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by .*. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the old adage about time heals all wounds is probably most appropriate here. You are going to need some time and space, and you are also going to have to accept that for a while it is going to hurt. It is important to learn to deal with your emotions.
Forget about the abusers and homophobes who have and will respond. I am straight and can tell you I know how difficult it is to put yourself out there when you are dealing with the opposite sex and know where you stand. To do what you have done took a lot of courage, and will continue to.
I was once heartbroken like you were ... and I also eventually met my wife and forgot about every other person in the world.
2007-04-27 05:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by TOM C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to love anybody but you dont have the right to demand love in return . On the other hand, he has the right not to love you in return even if he is Gay So, why torture yourself? We all need something to occupy our void thats why we cling. If you go look for someone else to idolise or even better still, spend more time pampering yourself or helping others, I think it might be more meaningful and would also make you a happier person. Who knows by helping others, you will find someone more worthy of you. Dont be sad. When you need to find something to divert your attention from the pain, you can always meet us here.
2007-04-27 05:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Vico 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore Robert. He is on a KKK-kick straight to hell. You are accepted that you are gay, right? So you should know that there wil be opportunities where your judgements on who is straight and who is gay fails you. Pick up the pieces of your broken heart and move on. It only seems like the end of the world now... but tomorrow, it won't be so bad.
2007-04-27 05:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by rocknrose2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You're just going to SUFFER with it as I have for the last 10 SOLID YEARS being hopelessly, helplessly in love with a gay guy who just WON'T give us a chance!!!!
I hope for your sake you will find someone who is more receptive....someone who is also gay. I also hope someday before my life has ended that I will find a STRAIGHT man that I can love. I feel your pain!
2007-04-27 07:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What anybody else does in case of broken heart I guess, forget about that love and search for someone that will correspond you.
2007-04-27 05:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by mbestevez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a cry and give it time.
Make sure stuff is still cool with your friend, because you can still be friends.
And when you're ready, find someone who can love you back.
2007-04-27 06:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to wait. In time you get over it. Its part of life and one day you look back and think, what was I thinking?
2007-04-27 05:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by raymond_h 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there will always be that pain but you dont ha ve to let it consume you if you let it go then you will feel better plus he aint worth all your troubles there is always some one better
2007-04-27 05:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋