Ladies, did you ever get married knowing you were probably making a mistake?

Question

This is for women to answer. Did you ever get married knowing while you were doing it that you might indeed be making a mistake? I mean, that you were doing it for the wrong reasons, but you said "what the hell, ill just do it," and went ahead and get married? Ever marry someone else even though you were in love with another man? Ever marry some guy ONLY because you were angry with an ex? How did things turn out with your marriage? Get divorced?

Answer 1

I have not been married because I always have had worries that i am not doing the right thing. Guess I am scared. I will be turning 30 this year and sometimes I think I may never get married..but i want to make sure it is not a mistake.

Answer 2

Okay here's what i did. This man that i was dating was controlling and had an anger problem. Eventually i had gotten pregnant. Not a good deal but something that i don't regret. I have the most charming little man! Anywhoo. He said that we should get married and be a real family and all kinds of things to that effect. Well eventually i started seeing it that way too. I married him and was excited yet terrified of what was to come next. 1 year later we were seperated, the next year we werre divorced. Now i am a a 21 year old woman with a 3 year old and have been divorced. But now i am happy.. So yeah i did enter a marraige i knew was wrong from the moment it was brought up..

Answer 3

wow - amazing how many of us regret the marriage, but but wouldn't change it. We are good mommies...

I did something similar to the other ladies that have answered, mine is just probably more current. I had 2 beautiful girls from my bf and we split up. We got together one night and I got pregnant again. He had come back to me saying he was diff and he wanted me back and he loved me and knew what a mistake he made... blah blah blah.... we got married right away. I miscarried the baby about a week ago and now I want out. I am soooo totally in love with an amazing man, but i just didn't realize it soon enough. Now, I don't know how to get away from my husband. Divorce is not really an option except in extreme circumstances for my familiy. I'm just trying to figure things out.

Answer 4

Yes - married for the right reason, just the wrong person. I knew on my honeymoon. Sometimes surroundings and location will play a large role. In my case it did. I lived in a small town (born and raised) and there weren't many other opportunities/alternatives. I was too young to know that I had wings and what I was feeling was real and not just jitters. I hadn't learned enough about myself, relationships and other people before getting married. I gave myself to someone, forfeiting myself and my own life not knowing that the right thing to do is so much different than the right love.

Answer 5

Unfortunately yes.

I was standing at the closed doors to the church on my fathers arm and I knew I didn't want to go through with the ceremony. I was too weak and insecure to just stand up and say so at the time to the assembled 250+ guests so I just did it.

We were married for 5 years but could not continue.

It is a very sad thing to admit but I refuse to live with regret so I took the experience, learned from it and chose not to ever settle again. I was single for 5 years until the man that I love came into my life and I did marry again. This time with no hesitations, questions or doubts.

Answer 6

I think this happens at alot in our society today. People get married for all the wrong reasons that at the time seem right. That's why we have a high divorce rate in our country. You really just have to learn to listen to your heart and do what's right for you. If you think getting married is the only way out of something....I hope you do it because you really love this person and that children aren't involved. Because then, you could end up make all the wrong choices and they will end up paying for your mistakes.

Answer 7

I could never marry someone knowing it was a mistake but I did reconcile with my ex and I knew full well it wouldn't work out......but we had already told the kids, etc. and I didn't want to hurt them. Little did I realize that getting separated a year later (for the second time) was quite a bit more painful then if I had just had the guts to end it before.

Answer 8

I remember thinking I had better go through with it because I had already made all the plans, invited all the guests and didn't want to "let anyone down." I was walking up the church steps to go down the aisle with this voice saying in my head "don't do it!" and I did it. Bad mistake but not the worst one in my life. The worst was when I did it the second time on a whim...different time different story of course...but another foolish decision. Marriage (two) has been the poorest prospect imaginable (for me).

Answer 9

I regret to admit you just hit the nail on the head with my first marriage. I wanted him to stop the marriage. Did not happen. We did divorce but what my daughter went through was hell. I will regret it all my life. The funny thing is if I had not made that horrible mistake I would not have her. There you go, figure that one out.

Answer 10

YES! I loved him, but wasn't happy with him, and the day we got married I remember walking down the isle and thinking run the other way. I was so unhappy. I should have listened to my gut because we divorced not long after that. I was pregnant when we got married, so now I have him in my life forever, but I do not regret meeting him because I wouldn't have my wonderful son. I just shouldn't have married him!!!