What's the hardest thing you had to deal with and how did you get through it???? Got alot on my plate at the moment, a divorce, new life in a new city & missing my kids back home.
2007-04-27 04:58:58 · 14 answers · asked by Elevenwolves 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The deaths of my parents. Still hard.
2007-04-27 08:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Recently? My mom passed away 2 months ago.
My husband is retiring from the Navy in a couple of months...with ZERO job prospects.
My son lives with his worthless father and B!tch step-mother and I'm basically a non-entity in that entire situation (he's 14).
The life-time hardships on the other hand are too numerous to count.
I'm sorry to know you're having such a miserable time right now. Try to think of the fact that eventually things DO get better, even if they're not the way you might have envisioned them turning out.
Good luck...and chin-up (as Mom used to say).
2007-04-27 05:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing, you are under tremendous stress.
The way I got through my divorce was just to take one day at a time and one problem/event/circumstance at a time.
When I thought about the big picture, I got very overwhelmed and didn't think I could handle it. But trying to tackle it in little pieces was manageable.
Also, try to find some new interests to occupy your time and exercise always relieves stress.
Finally, whatever anger you have for your ex, you must find a way to let it go. No matter how bad it was, you have to find the forgiveness in your heart or else it will weigh you down. You'll feel much more free if you can forgive.
Good luck to you. Better days are on their way.
2007-04-27 05:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by mykidsrsaints 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in nursing school, final semester, while going thru a divorce, my Dad died while he was at work, leaving Mom in debt. I had no job, and my car caught on fire 2 weeks later and was ruined; so I drove the "junk" car to school; and got a ticket for expired tags.
How did I get thru it? I don't know, except I remember living in denial; pretending Dad was just at work and everything was "OK" until I graduated a few months later. THEN I took the time to grieve, a little at a time. I rode with a friend to school...
Like a previous poster said; on a wing and a prayer.
2007-04-27 05:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kaliee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Wife ran off with a truck driver leaving me with a 2 month old and 12 year old .Roofing contractor lost all my work and contacts could not get reliable baby setter had to pay for roofing material and didn't get rein burst for it a little over 10 k Broke on my a*s starving lost 30 lb,s that i couldn't afford wasn't fat anyway .Wife come home I figure OK i cant do this welcome home she gets another boyfriend i come home hes here i club him with the good old 9 iron she stabs me calls the cops trying to put me i jail cops take her assault with a deadly weapon good thing we have smart cops here .Anyway i have the kids although the 2 month old isn't mine he is 4 years old now and i love him to death and " teaching him to beat his mom "( no just kidding ) she is now paying child support and lives in a dump I teach them to have respect for there mother . How did i make it through ? On a wing and a prayer !!
2007-04-27 05:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing I ever had to deal with is the demise of my marriage. I lost my best friend somewhere between year 2 and 3 and stuck it out to see if I could help rid my now ex of his demons so he/we could be happy again. It didn't work and got to a place where I had to leave for fear of my life.
Starting over sucks - period, but if you put your faith forward, you can get through it. Things will work out for you, trust me.
Good luck.
2007-04-27 05:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by auntb629 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a situation like this, just one day at a time. Life changing things are never really easy to get used to, you know? Deal with things as they come, but I'm sure you've already heard that...unfortuntately there are no magical words in handling things.
2007-04-27 05:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorced years ago-- family not being there for me, nor 'friends', I was broke and my health began to deteriorate.
when you're down & out nobody wants to know you. Then Jesus came knocking at my door, [through the words of others witnessing to me about Him] I invited Him into my heart, and He has been Lord of my life ever since, so together we can roll through any bad times. I'm telling you this is the truth.
2007-04-27 05:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce, losing 3 brothers, I just always remember God only gives us what we can handle. I pray a lot, (at home), and I always remember happy times, laugh and enjoy the things that most people don't(sunrise, sunset, flowers, the beauty of earth)
2007-04-27 05:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, life gets really hard doesn't it? I feel for ya, Darlin'. Look forward to a better future and think of this occasionally...
"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional." the Dalia Lama
2007-04-27 05:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My High School girlfriend contacted me on the 'net. I wrote her and spoke to her. I wasn't trying to get with her. I was being a 'friend'. My wife found out and it has been 4 years and she still doesn't trust me. It is hard, I still have to work hard to show her I love her.
2007-04-27 05:05:43 · answer #11 · answered by db14 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋