I dated this guy for a while and we ended up having sex.. but I wasn't ready. I did it a few times with him. I thought I kinda had strong feelings for him. But he starting putting me down about everything and making me feel bad. I knew then I didn't love him.. I didn't even have strong feelings for him. I kinda cared.. because I care about everyone. But I feel like I made the worse mistake. I'm with a guy now that I know for sure I love with all my heart. He is my bestfriend and was there when the other guy put me through crap. I just think I let it go to the wrong person. Now I don't know what to think.. I don't want him to think bad of me. Did I make the worse mistake of my life?
2007-04-27 04:13:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The most important thing is that you met a really nice guy...So you made a mistake and I hope you learned from it. Now move forward and stop looking back--what is done is done.
2007-04-27 04:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by Miss J 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Trust me you'll probably end up making bigger mistakes in your life. You're a human being; you're gonna make mistakes. But if the guy you're with now knows about what happened with you and the first guy, and still wants to be with you, then that's great. If he has stood by you through all this then he must be a pretty terrific guy. Let guy #2 know that you realized you made a huge mistake with guy #1 and that you no longer have feeling for guy #1. Almost everyone I know has let "it" go to the wrong person many times. It doesn't make you a bad person. Just learn from your mistakes.
2007-04-27 11:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by spicy_salsa69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about, you really didn't ask a question.
If you mean, should you tell the new guy? If that is the case then no, he doesn't want to know about your past mistakes or men you have slept with. Why women think otherwise is beyond me.
If you mean, giving your virtue to an unworthy man a huge mistake you can't get over? Sorry to say but it isn't that big of a thing, and there will be other men that will turn out to be less than you think at the time. Just get over it and live a happy life.
2007-04-27 11:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes a mistake or have regrets. The good thing is you found out the guy was bad for you and you got out. That's smart and very strong. You have a new start now. You have a chance to make things go your way this time around. Learn from the past and move on from it. Make better choices the next time around. =)
2007-04-27 11:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by Amy L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important ingredient in a relationship is trust. Be open and honest with this new guy.
I get the feeling you're worried because you're no longer a virgin he will think less of you. If he really cares, it won't make one bit of difference. After all, it wasn't your fault guy #1 turned out to be a jerk.
The real mistake here would be withholding your feelings. Tell him; then move on. It was just another life experience you (hopefully) have learned from.
2007-04-27 11:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No mistake made at all, i'm guessing your young and are yet to realise most guys are a*sholes regardless of how nice they seem at first. There's not many girls out there that 'lost it' to someone who turned out to completely different to what the thought. It'll just make you more careful in the future and build the foundations of better relationships. The thought of it being a mistake is a good thing though, cause it'll make you think more about who to do it with the next time.
2007-04-27 11:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you know now not to do anything your not ready for. Never let anyone talk you into something that your gut is telling you not to do. Is this new guy going to think bad of you, probably not so don't worry. Live and learn from your mistakes, never regret you will always learn a lesson.
2007-04-27 11:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh child, if that is the worst mistake you ever make you are lucky...but yes, you made a terrible character judgment...guys will say what we want to hear...once they get the "junk in our trunk" the REAL them come out. Don't make this mistake for the 2nd time! You can be a "2nd time virgin". I did it whan I was 16. Had a great guy, or so I thought. I gave up my cherry to him but realized I didn't want to have sex anymore til "we were married" of course, 6 months later he cheated and I broke up. A yr later, I found true love, I gave in to him, he cheated and I left him too. Bottom line, if they're with you for REAL...not just for the sex...your man will STILL be WITH you even if you tell him "hey, lets wait"...make this 2nd one WAIT. If he is the greatest guy you think he is...lets have him PROVE it...save it! The spread of STD's are rampet...condoms save lives...your body is your temple, treat it as one. good luck
2007-04-27 11:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it wasnt the worst mistake of ur life u might regret it for awhile. The worst mistake would have been stayin with him while he treated u like he did. Trust me this is cumin from a close friend and from experience. Not me but remember how my dad treated my mom n bro.?? Yeah its best to get away from it. Also i think its great that u found someone u can talk to (n b comfortable around) Good luck sis.
2007-04-27 11:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by country_chick_09 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what u lost to the other chap was a special thing, but dont feel bad about it, some people i know lost there virginity maybe through been drunk or stoned, but whats done is done, dont feel bad about it these things happen. but in relation to him he is a *** for putting u down he has no repsect for women and u are better the way u are now, i hope everything works well for u in the future, good luck
2007-04-27 11:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by barry o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋