continuation of please help!i need mens perspective?

Question

ok. i do not want a divorce, but i will not stand in the way of my husband wanting one, i have told him that i will sign the d.p. the situation is this: my husband had his brother moved in, he was suppose to stay for 3-4 months, he stayed over a year and a half, while leaving in our home the brother encouraged my husband to do some illegal stuff and i did not approve of it and i express to my husband my concern. the brother continues to disrespect me in our home and my husband just turns a blind eye to it and i got fedup with it and kicked his brother out. he is 28 and i feel like he should stop being lazy and get on with it. i did not kick my husband out, but he chose to leave when i kicked his brother out and now he is using a lame excuse of why he left, stating that other women out there would not have a problem with his brother leaving with them. was i wrong for kicking the brother out? i strongly feel that i was not wrong for kicking the brother out, but from a mens view i could b

Answer 1

Given the situation you have described it sounds like your husband was not willing to listen to you or meet your needs. Family is important, but not to the exclusion of the marriage. That is a man's first prioity. If he does not treasure you or take your wants and needs into consideration than your are better off to find the one that will.

I hope there is a chance for reconciliation, but if he is unwilling, then I would sign and move on.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm a man but I would have done the same thing too,
there is nothing worse to have a lazy people in your house,
adding to encouraged your husband to do some illegal stuff,
3-4 days it's Ok, 3-4 month!!!!! a year and a half.????no no no.

Answer 3

The man was 28, and lived with you for that long? I agree. It's one thing to help someone out, it's another to get taken advantage of, especially if he was getting your husband into some illegal stuff. You did the right thing, and if your husband doesn't understand that you probably did the brother a favor, (making he realize he can't mooch off other people forever) than he sounds immature. Maybe he'll come around, maybe not, but yes, you did the right thing.

Answer 4

U really cant say for sure but i can ask you that if you had a sister doing the same as your brother in law would you want your husband to kick her out . And please don't say " my sister would never do that " or " I don't have a sister " . Its just a hypothetical question . Would you feel sorry for your sister or pat your husband on the back? We cant help what our brothers and sisters do but we still love them.

Answer 5

Hell's bells; I would kick my own brother out under the circumstances. You are not a doormat or servant. Sounds like you might be better off with a new and improved type husband anyway.

Answer 6

No you were not wrong. He can't be doing illegal stuff in your house. If your man chooses that instead of you, good! Let him go and you file for divorce. He is immature and heading for trouble. I hope there aren't kids involved. If so run don't walk to the courthouse. Kids need to be safe.

Answer 7

I say stand your ground.
You are the master of your domain also - if he chose to leaev, that is his perogative and his brother isn't the only reason. Stand firm (even though it is difficult).

Answer 8

Given what you wrote. You were NOT wrong. I'm guessing that before you did it you actullay talked to your husband about it first.

Answer 9

sounds like u did the best u could...move one sign the papers