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2007-04-27 03:53:35 · 10 answers · asked by 2fine4u 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I might not be a good example because my wife and I have been together for 26 years and 99% has been good.
Right from the beginning language has been one of the most important things for both of us. There is a level of communication that I don't have other people.
I really like my wife's company except for the times I can't stand any body's company. Then she is cool about me taking time for a little solitude.
We never had an open marriage but my wife has always given me a great deal of latitude in conducting my own life. In turn she's pretty much free to follow her pursuits. So what ever is good for me is also good for her, it creates a balance freedom. We do have responsibilities to each other and our children but they aren't a burden.
We are not possessive or controlling but we don't always agree or accept what the other person is doing. Though we rarely fight, we have certain set rules for when we do.
Both of us would say, if you can find a better deal -take it. Since neither one of us are ready to pack this must be the best deal available, so we make the best of it.
We have no faith in marriage as an institution, we look at our marriage as a day to day relationship. I have a few friends who are very conservative with traditional values but are working on 3rd and 4th marriages.
The worse things are I have plenty of guy friends that don't understand, so I usually keep quite about my homelife. Also for all the lip sevice this society gives about honnoring marriage, being married can put you in in all kinds of legal and social disadvantages. And if you should ever stummble as a family don't expect any extra help for any one.
2007-04-27 04:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by brianjames04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I ain't no guy but... Your question called to mind many conversations I have had with young men of other cultures, mainly Muslim and HIndu, who put off marriage until they can support a wife and in the position to raise a family.
These are cultures that strongly encourage virginity, even if there are lapses. Marriage is taken very seriously so the right choice must be made. They do not luxuriate in "test or trial runs", the bane of our society so unaccepting of the challenge of COMMITMENT.Most want companionship of course, knowing that these marriages are a life time commitment but it all boils down to this quote from a little story I love called "Bombay This".
"For a brief, tempting instant, Ramu debated the wisdom of sharing his marital plans with his friends. Of speaking breezily on the trials of enlisting his mother as a Connubial Pimp intent on trading his economics for the unlimited use of a vagingaginga (You know what that word really is!), a womb, and a free lifetime supply of conversation at cross purposes."
I have heard this basic sentiment often. I am sure it applies equally to all cultures.
2007-04-27 04:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing about marriage is trust, partnership and comfort. Kids are lots of work, but awesome!
The worst is when your partner changes over time to develop characteristics (or to loses characteristics you loved about them) and isn't interested in changing back.
If this happens you have a partner who isn't as much like who you loved and married and now now you feel stuck with no way out without hurting your kids and breaking up your home.
2007-04-27 06:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best part of marriage, when it works, is the companionship. I don't mean that to be as dry as it sounds. But over the years, the "lust" wanes, and if you haven't married your best friend, you could be in trouble. But I digress, Again, the best part is having someone to scratch your back in the night, hold you when you hurt and provide a safe place to fall.
The worst part about marriage, is having to share a bathroom! Seriously! And if you haven't married your best friend, if you haven't married a person who will respect, support and give you that safe place to fall, then marriage turns into hell.
2007-04-27 04:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jill S 1 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Us men are the worst thing about marriage as we are liars, cheaters, and just plain no good.
2007-04-27 03:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Best thing? The first couple of weeks before the lust wears off
Worstg thing: in-laws!
2007-04-27 05:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by y u 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
best is security of having a best friend to talk to who you trust. worst is morning breath everyday.
2007-04-27 04:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by britton8201 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Best: having someone to come home to, have regular sex with and have fun with.
Worst: it never lasts.
2007-04-27 04:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
well the gud thing is you will have much sex probably every nite, worst is that you'll have todo much work
2007-04-27 03:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
A wife.
2007-04-27 04:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋