My husband's ex lover is asking for more child maintainence money.(his relationship with her was adulterous and twin boys were born)Now she is asking for more than the £600 that he sends for the kids.She gets more than £400 from tax credits and child benefit and her salary is over£2000 a month.He would not speak to me about this but it is affecting his share of bill payments for our home and our 3 kids.
2007-04-27 03:48:28 · 15 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Larry Cl,I am the wife.He cheated on me with her.Is this not clear in the details mentioned?She is the wannabe home wrecker
2007-04-27 04:07:14 · update #1
He should pay her in line with CSA requirements, which for 1 child is 15%, and 2, I think, is 20% of net salary.
2007-04-27 03:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by RRM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Under the way the CSA worked (or didin't work) he would have to pay 15% of his wage for his first child and 5% for every child after - how twins fit into this I couldn't say, but he should pay no more than 20% of his wage - please note that this sum is reduced if the man has other dependant children - and your man has three.
I wouldn't advise getting the CSA involved yourself, as they are complete idiots (this I know from personal experience) but £600 a month seems more than enough maintenance to me - considering his ex's monthly income.
It might be worth looking into though, because you may find legally he has to pay a lot less - unless your man is on an exceptional wage.
2007-04-27 10:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Nexus6 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he must go to the CSA. They will come to a suitable payment for him to pay and she won't be able to ask for more because it's all done legally. They also will take into account your family and what you need to live on. The amount she's receiving does seem a bit excessive and I'm sure she wouldn't be receiving £400 tax credits if they knew how much your husband was giving her.
2007-04-27 10:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by jayne1653 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would get your other half to go to a solicitor and get the ex lover to declare her earnings the tax credits seems awfully high, I earn about £1000 a month and my tax credits only come to just over £180 per month and I get no other help. My ex ended up owing us £2500 he never paid it. He shouldnt have to pay anymore than 20% of his earnings the fact you have children means that they should take priority. Its a minefield I know. A solicitor would give half an hours free advice look for a good family law one.
2007-04-27 14:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by BigMomma2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, well... HE cheated, now he gets to pay the piper. If you have a problem with this... Tough. He should have thought about child support BEFORE he dropped his pants in another woman's bedroom.
The fact that he can't support two families is not the fault of the child. Your husband made a stupid choice, not the kid. The child did not ask to have a piece of trash cheater for a father.
2007-04-27 11:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has a right to hand over all issues surrounding maintenance to the CSA. That way they deal with it all and there is no need for contact between the two parties.
I have found the CSA to be very helpful and easy to deal with.
2007-04-27 12:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by BTB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
check it out on the CSA website, you can put your details in and it'll come up with an estimate of how much your husband should be paying. make sure you put in the fact that you have kids at home and how often your husband sees his kids by his ex-lover. you can arrange direct debits from your account to hers and if you go with the CSA, she cannot demand more money (and you cannot decrease it) unti they re-assess your situation.
hope it works out for you, it seems like a hell of alot of money x
2007-04-27 11:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by gracie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
inform the benefits office and teh child support agency, jsut coz she has two kids that doesnt mean you don't have any expenses you have 3 kids, plus your maintanance and your outgoings, payments for mortgage, tell them to reassess your payments, also inform them that she is working and getting tax credits and that her salary is over 2k a month explain that is affecting your share
2007-04-27 19:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by Perfectionist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an unfortunate situation,but he created it by having an affair. That does not make those children any less important than yours and he will always be responsible for their welfare. He may have to work more hours or another job but he will have to pay.
2007-04-27 11:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats enough. I would tell him You love all the kids but he needs to take responsibility and take care of you and the kids in the home. if she cant afford to take care of the kids with the child support she is getting you guys should take them form her.
2007-04-27 11:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋