I dont know about Ya'll but why does it seem when a man is married either his Ex's or other female want him?? I CANT stand Home wreckers! If i ever found out my husband had another women I would Prob. do something to him and her to were i would be sent to prison!!! No this isnt just for woman, MARRIED MAN if another Man was either trying or doing your girl Tell me you wouldnt Be MAD! So Why does it seem Now days people are just Trying to find a way to split UP a marriage!!!!
2007-04-27 03:26:42 · 18 answers · asked by Nissa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is a man-made institution, and just because you are married, it doesn't mean that suddenly the attraction to others is over. It is up to each of us to choose. The only home wrecker is the spouse who agreed to go outside the marriage. It has nothing to do with the other woman, or man. So if you're going to blame and get violent with someone for cheating, blame his betrayal of your love and trust, because if it weren't this chick, it would just be some other, right?
2007-04-27 04:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know, I can honestly answer this. I have more male friends than I do female friends. Here's the thing that I've learned. If a marriage isn't strong anyway, then it could be easy for an 'outsider' to break it up and want it too. For example: I've been called a home wrecker and I'm not. I've had to prove to my male friends spouses that I'm sincere and would never hurt someone's relationship etc..and 100% of the time it's been fine =) I'm still friends with them as of today. I've never flirted with them or tried to pry my way in, I respect all of my friends marriages and strangers whom I might meet outside if they're married. It honestly depends on the person and the stability of the marriage, I've seen it .....and the wives I've actually gotten apologies from and then they open up about how unhappy they are in the marriage and don't want someone "coming along" and making things worse; rightfully so. Now if they still think I'm that way, that's their own issue, not mine =) Best wishes!!!
2007-04-27 03:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to like my answer, but here it is anyway.
In my opinion, the only one you can be mad at is the one that leaves for another person.
Yes, it is horrible that some actually plan to break up a marriage, but ultimately there would be problems with the marriage to begin with if a spouse left for someone else.
I would be hurt, and would not have any good feelings toward the other person, but I would know in my heart that it would have ended no matter what.
I have been married five years to a wonderful man, and do not see an end in sight, but I know things happen in life that we do not like.
Think about it...you say you would land in prison for your actions if you found out about another woman in your man's life...How does that make it better? Do you honestly think that attraction is a reason for violence?
Your heart will only be hurt for a while, but you will live.
2007-04-27 03:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by Star 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problems. People want what they cant have. When a woman sees a man who has made a commitment and maybe even had kids, she wants that. It may not even be the man. People are jealous. It seems when people are in a relationship....past people come out of the woodwork. I tell my husband all the time that if I caught him with someone else I would sit in prison for the rest of my life.
2007-04-27 03:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by Quinn S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deeply hurt, absolutely. Angry to degree yes but beyond that no point.
You call them homewreckers!
It is true that they shouldn't be involved with married men/women.
It is too late to be mad if something happens. If you have such a weak spouse you maybe ought to just go up & shake (others) their hand, & tell them thanks for relieving you of a burden that would of come sooner or later. Save you wasting so much of your life wondering what happened.
However, the root of the problem isn't what's out there, it is what's at home. The spouse is not getting everything he/she THOUGHT a long term relationship should be. Ironically companies spend billions of dollars annually teaching people to communicate. People who went through an entire education system, that is there to develop social skills (so I am told), can't even talk to spouse.
Men/women at work are complimented or praised, receive awards, & bonuses for what they do. At home so much is done that there is no or little verbal recognition about accomplishments.
Anyway you can't control what goes on out there so no sense in even trying, but your own environment YOU HAVE THE POWER TO DEVELOP & MAINTAIN A LONGTERM MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SPOUSE THAT IS UNBREAKABLE FROM THE OUTSIDE
2007-04-27 03:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by freshex2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I know is I have one woman. Only one. I don't understand her most times, very careful not to cross her. Try to figure out what she means when she is telling me something totally different. Try to "read the signs" that she keeps telling me is so obvious so I know what mood she's in. Go to the mall with her so I can carry all the packages. Make sure I compliment her on how nice she looks even when she's wearing a face mask. And stay the heck out of her way one week each month. Why in the world would I want to have another woman?
2007-04-27 03:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Why is it all about "marriage wreckers"
no one is that- it happens, when one finds a person with an aspect that you crave for but are not satisfied with in your present relationship,
It is sad that everyone wants to think a certain way and do not want to look at the larger picture, open your mind and when you meet the person you are happy with you will look no more...................its a gaurentee.
2007-04-27 04:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by arnold s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally agree with you. Of course the spouse who cheats is the one who deserves the brunt of the anger, but the "other" person....!
I find, especially with women who go after married men, that they rather like the fact that a married man is kind and gentle, knows a lot about women and what they like and want -- BUT that's because he is married and he and his wife have worked on things.
I find it very, very sad.
2007-04-27 04:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hated the homewrecker too, but let's face it: She didn't put a gun to his head and make him cheat. The worst part was the 2 of them getting married and wanting to have a wonderful blended family with everyone being happy as clams. My kids have never really accepted her because they feel she broke up the family. Their dad can't understand that.
2007-04-27 12:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by dawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy and envy. They want what you have. Unfortunately, these weak, selfish, men and women with no conscience do find that weak, sad selfish spouse. Takes 2 to tango.
I hate home wreckers and those spouses who are in and whom have thought about extra-marital affairs.
Shocking are the ones whom are comfortable with "OPEN-MARRIAGES".
2007-04-27 03:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by busyqueenlyb 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋