I haven't been able to orgasm during sex ever since I had my first child. I am really tired of faking it and I dont know what to do. Is it something I'm doing wrong? Im only 19, surely my libido isn't already shot.
2007-04-27 02:52:45 · 10 answers · asked by hnh573 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
My fiancee use to have this problem... and she will be 19 in a few more months....
We researched and and found out that a lot of women do not actually orgasm... its about communication... tell your man what you like and what makes you feel good...
Most women need stimulation to the "clit" to orgasm... dont know hope i helped a little bit...
Good Luck
2007-04-27 03:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of mother's libido drops after having a baby. The stress of taking care of a baby is a big factor, also the stress of childbirth, and the healing process is also a factor, but in a few months your libido should come back. Maybe you should have a family member take of the baby for a day(if s/he's not too young) and just have a day to yourselves and see if it helps. But don't rush this, take it easy.
2007-04-27 10:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the real question is can you achieve orgasm by yourself? If you can, then the problem may be due to fatigue, worry, or problems that are going on inside your head. If you cannot orgasm by yourself, then you should see your woman's healthcare provider and get some input.
2007-04-27 10:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by stingme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, self exploration might help. See what you like & what turns you on, so you can tell your partner. You're not doing anything wrong, you need to find out what works for you & what doesn't. You're only 19th & there is so much more to learn. The things you enjoyed might have changed, have fun... :)
You also need energy & relaxation for intimacy, it takes a lot of energy raising a young child. :)
2007-04-27 12:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Fraulein 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't freak out
Secondly please don't fake it its just flat out wrong to mislead your guy .
Try masturbating to see if you can achieve orgasm , if you can just tell your guy what you want.
I know alot of women enjoy a man stimulating thier clitoris with thier tongue while inserting thier finger in her vagina and playing with her G-spot
2007-04-27 11:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by angrywm14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long ago, did you have your baby? it might be normal if you are preocuppied or tired. or maybe still not comfortable with your body changes due to pregnancy.
2007-04-27 10:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your man just doesn't know what hes doing
2007-04-27 09:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by debi h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to your ob/gyn. It's very common after pregnancy
2007-04-27 10:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by heya 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you can't make yourself come alone it is a problem..
2007-04-27 12:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you havent had me
2007-04-27 10:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by Carter B 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋