My husband and I have been married for 4 years, dated for 3 years. We had a beautiful baby boy 8 months ago, and lately I have been finding it hard to get romantic with my man.
I want to go on dates once in awhile, have undisturbed intimacy. But he says that we do not need to go on dates anymore, we're married....
What is that? I am sorry but a woman needs a little romance, that is what gets her in the mood if you know what I mean. But he just doesn't seem to get that. Any suggestions?
2007-04-27 01:57:54 · 7 answers · asked by Justina P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not nag or say anything to my hubby... I cook for my man and take care of him. I just wish sometimes that he would show me some love... it is beginning to feel like we are roomies that share a bed. I am a woman and I enjoy being kissed and held. Geesh... I mean am I wanting too much? I don't want to pressure him or nag at him... don't get me wrong. I know he loves me, I would just like to be shown from time to time.
My idea of love is not having him hop on, have his fun and then roll over and go to sleep. Women need a little foreplay...
2007-04-27 06:45:26 · update #1
I went through a stage like that awhile back. Thought the same thing. So my wife started making plans for us without asking. You know the type, bed and breakfast for the weekend, Comedy Theater with dinner and a motel for the night and so on. The first time or two I said I wasn't going, and she said fine, she'll be back on Monday. So of course I went. Next thing you know, I was making the plans and having the best time of our lives. So now the rule is one night a week is "our time" and nobody is allowed to back out. And we still get away every weekend possible. Good Luck.
2007-04-27 02:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's the wording "dates" that is making your husband act this way. Some men are very literal beings and have to have things spelled out for them. I happen to have a date with my husband tonight and I can't wait! (We've been married for five years, have a 22-month old and one on the way.) It's really about alone time because a baby takes that time away. Just wait until the baby's a toddler! My advice would be to let him know you want to be alone with him not just to date him again. Perhaps you can suprise him by getting a sitter and whisking him away to a nice dinner or movie. Once you do this a couple of times, he will come around because he'll look forward to that time alone with you as well.
2007-04-27 09:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, now you see why people cheat. They have different ideas what marriage should be about. Your line of thinking is diametrically opposed to his.
Most guys do think that you use romance to get a woman. Once you're married, you focus on your family and the future and not "working on romancing". It's just the way the male mind is wired. Women are much more needy of attention and feel rejected if a guy isn't constantly making them feel sexy or wanted. He married you and that means he wants and needs you. If you really need romance from him, give him a reason to do it instead of complaining and nagging.
We have to be in the mood, not doing it because the woman demands it, you know?
So women and wives, before you think about giving this reply a thumbs down, think about what I've just said and try it. You've got everything to gain by doing that and everything to lose by not. Read Joe V's answer below and see what we mean.
2007-04-27 09:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can get the baby to stay with your parents for the night that would be great. If not, it can still work out because everything can be done right in your own bedroom. Lingerie and candles are always romantic. A massage with Spa and Massage music playing and heated oils always heats things up, too. Start on his back and when he turns over for his front body to be massaged the minute you straddle him the massage will be very hard to continue. Also, they have a few games for couples that really heat things up in the bedroom. My favorites are Romantic Rendezvous which can be purchased at http://couplescompany.com and An Enchanted Evening which can be purchased at http://www.candlelightmessages.com
Play these games in your candlelit bedroom with champagne, chocolate covered strawberries and as little clothing as possible to really set the mood. But wear something, it's always a little sexier.
2007-04-28 13:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Why little romance, not only you but all women deserve at least one thing from their husband and that is CARE, you name anything like romance or loving etc.. but women or all should know to get anything
`EXACT & FULL PRICE TO BE PAID`
know him in full by observing him, his face expressions, watch him carefully while he is pre-occupied in some other work for few days and the secret about him will be known to you,
act accordingly and you will get what you want absolutely anything and
believe you me
"you need not have to ask even"
2007-04-27 09:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by Karsan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is his opinion he will be single again before he knows it. Just because you are married doesn't mean you stop doing the work.
2007-04-27 09:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to let your feelings be known to your husband.I just lost my wife of 14 years because the communication failed. Tell him how you are feeling....you will be suprised how much it will help.
2007-04-27 21:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by larry c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋