"Real" lesbians don't call themselves "queer". Real lesbians don't think differently than heterosexual females, as in they (lesbians) think of themselves as having the identity and personality of an average woman, not just some woman with "unnatural" attraction towards the same sex.
I realise that I don't fit in the "lesbian" or "gay" description of today's world 'cos I consider myself to be me... not a "queer" or "different" person just 'cos I am attracted to the same sex. I just can't see myself going to those funny-looking gay parades with cross dressers and weird outfits... they're just making a fool of themselves by showing the world that gay people are like "clowns" or what not.
I've never had a lesbian relationship before but I know in my heart that I am one. (No explanation needed.)
Do you agree or disagree with my views on "real" lesbians?
2007-04-27 01:33:26 · 15 answers · asked by Ms Ghost 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My very dear Lady. I have been a "real" Lesbian for 26 going on 27 years now. This is the lenght of my marriage with my Partner. Neither one of us knew we were Lesbians until we met the other.
My Darling drives a Semi. I keep the house. I wear brightly coloured clothing, occassionally slap on a funny hat and entertain the children I care for. This may or may not include a parade. I often make a fool of myself, but I'm good at it.
My Partner doesn't, but that's her job and that's what she likes to do.
As a "real" Lesbian I am very comfortable with myself and have been since the time I was able to get my hormones under control. I understand that these "clowns" are showing the world that black, white, green or purple as Dr Suess said "A person's a person, no matter how small." We all could take a lesson from Horton the Elephant.
A real Lesbian is kind to those around her
She stands up for what she believes in
She fights against injustice and against the bullies she sees in the system around her in whatever capacity she can
She knows she is what she is.
That is what a real Lesbian is, my Dear.
Deal with it.
2007-04-27 02:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that when you start trying to define who's a "real" lesbian, or gay man, or anybody and anything, for that matter, you're getting into tricky territory.
Let's do some backpedalling, shall we?
Lesbian: a woman who is sexually attracted to women.
Does that include you? Yes. Does that include all the other women who identify as queer and gay? Yup. Just because you have a prejudice against people who are different doesn't mean you can deny their sexual orientation or their right to an existence.
Quite frankly, you're the kind of person that makes me want to vomit . . . do you really think separatism is the kind of thing that helps our cause? When lesbians like yourself are already derided and harassed, how can you turn around and do the same thing to your fellow sisters who are certainly going to get more flak just because they're being themselves and the world tends to think they're "clowns"?
I just don't understand it. Anyways, I'm proud to be a queer girl. Too bad you have to put others down in order to be proud of who you are.
2007-04-27 05:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with how you are explaining this...A real lesbian can call herself gay,lez, queer, dyke, femme, butch, or be a male-to female transgender (some people may disagree with me on the MTF thing but, that's ok). A real lesbian is a woman who loves other women & either has been or wants to intimately love them emotionally &/or physically &/or spiritually.
Have you ever watched a Mardi Gra parade? Did you see alot of "normal", "average" people wear weird outfits & make fools of themselves? A pride parade is a celebration...a fun time.
But I do agree with you in that a lesbian is much more similar to heteros than not & that being lez is not an "unnatural" attraction to the same sex....
2007-04-27 02:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by maeveangel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have to disagree. i think you peceive the lesbians who are out and proud and going to parades as doing those things to justify who they are. instead, i think they are doing those things just b/c that *is* who they are. And personally, i feel people should have the right to express themselves however they want, whether it be to wear a rainbow pantssuit, full leather garb, or jeans and a tshirt. If a woman wants to refer to herself as "queer" why should that matter to you? Last time i checked, being a lesbian was about having a mental, physical, and emotional draw towards having relationships with women. I don't think much that there are other qualifiers on that. I respect your opinion and you have every right to abstain from the pride events and the choice with whom you associate, but i don' tthink your opinion of someone else really should take away from how another woman chooses to identify and express herself.
2007-04-27 02:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jnr528 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand what you mean by "real" I mean we all can express ourselves anyway that we want to. The beauty about being apart of the LGBT community is we love and accept everyone any way they choose to express themselves, in your pursuit of being "normal" in this hetero world you are looked at as "queer" or "different" lets face it honey you are, we all are, because in this right wing facist society that we live in, we are not like them, and anyway you try and work it you are one of us. You are forgetting what this all means.....Self Expression, so for those people that go to our parades, and fight to make things more "normal" for you, and the rest of us. Remember that, because in the next few years when you are in a "Real" lesbian relationship, and you can marry the woman that you love, maybe you will appreciate the cross dressing clown that helped it happend for you!
2007-04-27 03:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Princess*J* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a very valid point about "real" lesbians. However, I wouldn't be to quick to judge those that go to the gay parades with brightly colored clothing on... they are just showing that they are happy and proud to be gay and that there is nothing wrong with it and I happen to agree.
2007-04-27 01:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as "real" men don't have to watch football games and drink beer all weekend and "real" women don't have to walk around barefoot and pregnant all day, "real" lesbians also do not have to put rainbow bumper stickers on their cars and go out of their way to make sure EVERYONE knows they're gay.
2007-04-27 04:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree. I don't see why lesbians who do like to go or participate to a gay parade are not real lesbians.
Every-one his/her own taste, but if you are attracted to your own sex, I don't care how you look like or how you behave, you are real gay or lesbian to me.
We shouldn't start pointing fingers towards each other....
2007-04-27 02:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Bloed 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what you are talking about. I'm a person, not a category - and how I refer to myself is my business, not yours ... and visa versa.
You sound like you want to be a "lesbian", but are afraid to do anything about it.
When you are living each and every day as a lesbian (real or otherwise), come back and try your little pompous lecture again.
As for the parades ... they are not compulsory, sweetie.
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2007-04-27 01:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by abetterfate 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
so according to your little speel, I'm apparently not a 'real' lesbian.......
but if I were to be the type of pompus *** that you're being, then my response would be that you cant be a 'real' lesbian until you've had a relationship with a woman.........
signed,
just another 'pretend' lesbian thats living out loud, attends every Pride parade she can and actually has relationships with women...
D~~
2007-04-27 02:11:36 · answer #10 · answered by D~~ 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋