I'm a black female and so is my mate. She recently married a white guy cause she hates black men (daddy issues).
But we had a conversation about one of her husbands friends who has a crush on me, to which I said I wasn't really interested in him because he wasn't really my type.
And then she said that I probably wasn't his type anyway, because he'd probably prefer a girl who was 'more white' like her.
Her exact words were: Because he's never dated a black girl before , I think he'd prefer someone who was more white, like me!
And I sat there thinking...wtf!
Please advice.
2007-04-27 01:26:16 · 14 answers · asked by Nothing's Forever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its not worth it being angry with this kind of people--stop being friends with her.
so what if she marries a white?that doesnt mean that shes "more white" than you.and having a friend who looks down on you wont be pleasant.
lastly,your friend is an idiot.why the hell does she look down on blacks when she herself IS A BLACK?
i wish you best luck in finding nicer friends.(:
2007-04-27 01:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by Someone... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.....I really do not have an answer for that, but I do have an opinion on it. Based on the information given......it sounds like your friend is going through a time in her life where she is not 100% sure of herself and maybe has lost track of who she is and is trying out a different life style. It sounds like you are sure of yourself and know who you are and are very proud of that and that is nothing to be ashamed of or put down for. Stand up for who you are and let your friend work out her issues........just because she is going through a race change does not mean you have to. If it were me.........I would let her go through her thing and if she continues to bring negativity towards you and on you..........let her go and find a friend that is a little more self aware and is positive. That is the best I got I hope it helps.
2007-04-27 08:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Turkey_Bird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking that she may be embarrassed for assuming that you would be interested in him and is just trying to find a way to quickly put an end to her suggestion that you get involved with him, by saying he wouldn't be interested in you anyway - I don't feel it has anything to do with you or his preference, after all you said he has a crush on you... so I think the issue is she just didn't choose her words or approach properly in trying to put an end to a somewhat sticky situation.
2007-04-27 08:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by fabulousfun2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why your first thought would be wtf. That was my first thought as well. But I can honestly say that her comment was probably not ment to be hurtful to you. Some people just make thoughtless, stupid comments. If you value her friendship my suggestion is to let this one go. It sounds like she isn't comfortable in her own skin & color is an issue for her for whatever reason. If, in the long run her friendship isn't that important to you then just let her go & move on. The choice is yours. Good luck & best wishes.
2007-04-27 08:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take offense at all; your friend has some issues. I'm a latina, and recently met my friend's dad, who is latino, who told me, "as long as she doesn't bring home a sp_c..." (his wife is white.) I laughed so hard, and told him, "Have you looked in the mirror lately; you're Mexican!!!" He was stunned, and then I felt bad...Poor guy...kinda like your buddy; not proud of who they are. Regarding your friend, get some Chappelle show DVDs, sit back, and enjoy a few laughs with her...
2007-04-27 08:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by Artemisia G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you take that much offence at what your friend said then you need to discuss it with her.
After the talk you will know if you truly are friends or not.
upfront and honest is always the best.
be cool...
2007-04-27 08:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was interested in u. Maybe she just wants all the white guys. Green eyed monster.
2007-04-27 08:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by badkittie2u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she has the "i think i am more white than these black gals" syndrome
i dont think it was anything personal to you
2007-04-27 08:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this girl is your friend
2007-04-27 08:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by Justin L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with Barbiq
2007-04-27 08:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋