I am 5 months and am very ok with being a single mom. ( I cant make him be a father) what will happen if he wont sign the birthcertific? i am in california
2007-04-26 19:43:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It's not up to him. The hospital can administer a paternity test and his name will go on the certificate. You're right in thinking you can't make him be a father, but he needs to pay child support. He has to do that whether he wants to or not.
It's sad how men are so quick to jump into bed to make babies, but then aren't man enough to be a father.
2007-04-26 19:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by ebonaiuto1030 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get an attorney, haul his hind end to court, get an order for paternity test and at least make him financially support the child. You cant make him be a father, but you can take the financial help. Being very ok with being a single mother has never put groceries on the table or paid for medical bills. Doesn't matter whether he signs the birth certificate or not. A paternity test will prove if he is the father and then the certificate issue is moot. Court order will take over from then on and have him legally listed as the father. Don't let him off the hook or someone else less able to handle this than you, will become his next victim.
2007-04-27 02:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ret. Sgt. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me ask you to stay/remain calm. Enjoy your pregnancy and try not to worry so much about the negatives. Being a single parent is very very very very hard. I have a 12 year old and am not a single parent and it is still the hardest thing that I have ever done in my life. It is also the most rewarding. The key is keeping the drama down. You are right, you can't make him be a father, but you can take every Penny that he ever thought he would have. Think paternity test and child support. Check your local state agencies. Good luck and stay strong.
2007-04-27 02:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't have to sign the birth certificate. You don't even have to have a father's name on it. However, it's VERY IMPORTANT for you to get some legal help, if necessary, so you can establish some financial support from him. DO NOT let him think that he's not partially responsible for this new life, whether he wants to be a part of it or not. I hope that you have some family to support, how ever way you need it.
2007-04-27 02:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by jamaicabound191 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your local govt will petition him for paternity testing to establish paternity for child support if he fails to comply he will have a warant issued for his arrest, drivers license revoked, or they may even list him as the father anyway because if he is not the father y won't he comply to a paternity test so that;s telling the gov right there that he is the father. Don't worry, go to your local welfare office and apply for benifits and they will take it from there they will tell you what to do. You will need his full name, social security number and date of birth, if you have a valid mailing address for him COOL BEANS this will speed up the process. He doesn't have to have anything to do with the child "that's cool" but he will help you financially support the child. E-mail me at kaneadsha@yahoo.com if you have any other questions I went through this but it was only for child support my daughters dad signed her birth certificate in the hospital but with or without a signature on the birth certificate he will help you
2007-04-27 02:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From personal experiance here, even if he doesn't sign the birth certificate he STILL has parental rights or at least that's what a judge told me. Anyway, he denied our daughter so, I took his punk a** to court when she was born, and requested a DNA test(to prove him wrong). When the test results came back stating that she was his the judge asked me if I wanted to change my daughter's last name, I told the judge no and the judge made him pay child support. Like you said, you can't make the b*****d be a father but, you can damn sure make that SOB pay for what he helped make, you didn't get yourself pregnant.
2007-04-27 03:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by beautiful_whisky_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were im living, u can put the fathers name on the birth certificate without them as long as u do it at the hospital if u do it n e were else the fathers gota b there 2 sign. and as for him not wanting a part in the babys life, well for starters he needs to grow up and start wearing condoms, he cant jst av is fun then run thats not a man thats a mouse, good luck wiv the baby x
2007-04-27 03:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the biological father won't sign the birth certificate, the child will have to be registered in your name, but then when that is done, you could investigate into having the name changed to same surname as his by deed poll.
2007-04-27 02:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't remember signing a birth certificate. I cut the imbelicle cord, I remember that........so I don't think there is even a space for a father to sign. I know you can name the father (Which you should) everything else is on you and him. Give it more time before you make any rash decisions. Remember you are highly emotional right now.
2007-04-27 02:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by vacmag 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would imagine they would want you to name the father for child support reasons or if you are going to do some sort of state aid. You could call the local family court to ask. They should have clerks that can answer your questions.
2007-04-27 02:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by babyquestion24 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋