My best friend, who is also my cousin, have been friends since birth. We've always been close, but she has very low self esteem and has always competed with me. I've overlooked it until now. I moved a few years ago and now we live 700 miles away. She has just found out that she is pregnant, she's 18. She doesn't want to work and as sad as it sounds, I think the pregnancy was planned so she doesn't have to work. I planned to drive up to be there with her for her appointment. A week before I was leaving, my oil pan blew out. I had to get it fixed and by the time I paid for that and my insurance. I didn't have near enough to make it up and back. I told her, "Bad news hun, don't think I can make it. Call you tomorrow" She told back "Not mad, but youre a coward" This infuriated me. I have always looked out for her. When I was raped, she gossiped about it. She had sex willingly, told me how great it was, then when her mom found out, she said she was raped. Makes me so angry. All about her.
2007-04-26 19:17:33 · 7 answers · asked by Unknown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i'm sorry but it sounds to me like you shouldn't trust her or hang around her a lot..she has obviously changed..i mean you should still be there for her but she sounds like the jealous type also so don't shove anything you acheive in her face and just forget about her telling her mom that she got raped because one day her mom will find out the truth
2007-04-26 19:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jess
This is a family member, yet not a friend.
Would you let a stranger treat you this way? no
Send her cards, gifts and support in a generic way, and its time to let her live the life she has chose for herself. Do things for "her and the baby" that make you happy.
Please step out and create new relationships for you. A real best friend is waiting to be found. Mutual respect and appreciation is friendship, no "bone" of jealousy or competition is in a mature healthy friendship. We share our joys and sadness in equal measure.
As we grow, we do evolve out of friendships. That is natural.
Its like "falling out of love" ....you still have feelings its just not the right person, for you any more.
2007-04-26 19:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you allowing her to upset you after all she has done to you? She only cares about herself. You sound like a nice person, trying to help her out, and what does she say to you? If I were in your shoes, I would avod her like the plague. She is the type that will never be there for anyone else, but will always want everyone to do for her. Don't be her victim.
2007-04-26 19:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a seat this pal down and consult from her. tell her that she is selfish and self-generic, inform you that it hurts you whilst she belittles you and makes you experience like rubbish; and if she doens't at lest attempt to restoration this, you heavily isn't her pal and greater effective than likley, if she keeps to act this form, she'll finally end up without acquaintances. it would desire to easily be that she does not comprehend she appearing like this and many between the two certainly one of you, you will desire to warn her whilst she's appearing selfish and self-generic. i actually desire she alters and the friendship does not end considering you have been acquaintances for 15 years.
2016-10-03 23:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by kelchner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to have a set down and talk this problem over with her.let her know how you feel,and let her know its not appropriate for her to call you a coward and let her know shes being selfesh,and come out and ask her if shes using the preganancy as an exscuse not to work.talk to her about whats bothering you,but let her know you love her and care for her and that your friendship is very important to you.
2007-04-26 19:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by denise j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you don't need this aggavation in your life. Anybody who would gossip about you after you were raped is no friend. It sounds like you've outgrown her by light years. Lose the loser.
2007-04-26 19:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Girls like that make us, the real victims, look bad. sounds like you need to tell her what for, and tell her parents also that she wasn't raped or else she will just use everone for the rest of her life. after you have done your equivalent damage, don't talk to her anymore.
2007-04-26 19:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋