Why don't men understand what women go through?

Question

Why is it that men think that you are just being mean when you are pregnant. They do not seem to understand that you may be emotional. Now morning sickness has kicked in. Fatigue. Men think that we are just one big ball of meaness. This is not true. If they had to carry a baby in them. Puking every mornign. Peeing every five seconds. Tired all the time. Only to gain about 25 pounds and expect to loose it as soon as they have the baby. Then having to go through contractions and push a baby out to have them to hang on your breast for a year, maybe they would understand. They have no clue. I wish that everyone of them could have a baby just once.

you have no clue Mr. Top Contributor

Answer 1

Thank you Jot and Dave, there are some men out there.
I truly feel you on this one since I have 4 weeks to go with baby #4. My hubby still hasn't gotten the concept of pregnancy and the emotions. I just went on bed rest and now he thinks I just have more time to do housework, etc. To put it simply, I feel as if he doesn't care. He hasn't been to one doctors visit, doesn't ever ask about baby, the list goes on. Sometimes, I think some men where better raised to adapt to womens feelings, while others didn't. I am definately teaching my boys to be gentlemen and not to be so self centered.

Answer 2

1) Women earn less on average than men because women tend not to go for the harder, better paying jobs. All other things being equal, women are paid the same as men. Besides, women control the majority of consumer spending, so clearly they're getting enough money from somewhere. 2) Men might hold political office, but when women make up a small majority of the electorate, who do you think really holds the influence? 3) I haven't been sexually objectified to my knowledge, but men are generally objectified as tools to do work, as if who they are doesn't matter. 4) I may not worry about getting raped when walking alone, but I'm far more likely to be beaten up or mugged than a woman. Further, not all women walk around afraid that a rapist is hiding in their own shadow. Sure, awareness and caution is a good thing for everyone, and perhaps guys could cross over and/or pass any woman they find themselves following at night as a matter of courtesy, but the women who see rapists everywhere have issues, and you aren't helping them. 5) It's not 'an advert has a woman mocking a man.' It's that men are consistently either idiots who couldn't survive without women or are jerks whilst women can seemingly do no wrong except maybe when no men are present. It's not individual cases, it's pervasive misandry throughout the media. And then there's issues like custody, ignoring male abuse and so on that you ignore because it wouldn't let you paint men who actually care about their human dignity as being the 'bad men'.

Answer 3

Well I was like that when my first daughter was born, but by the time my wife and I had four girls. I knew how it was and by 3rd child. I was very supportative, and I put up with the bitchy moods my wife went thru, held back my wife's hair when she threw up. At the end I love her more every year because we go through so much together. So I don't know if the pregnancy is your first one together or not. So if it's first one go figure usually women are more ready to deal with the pregnancy while men are honestly immature or don't realize what it is like.

Too bad the movie Junior hasn't came true otherwise men could experience what women do. ;-)

Answer 4

Part is because we don't have those hormones, so we never have those physical feelings. Part is because men tend to solve problems that we can solve, and deny or submerge problems we can't ... and pregnancy, childbirth, and infancy can't be "solved" and certainly can't be ignored.

However, some of us did the diaper thing, the feeding thing, and especially the middle-of-the-night, when-will-this-kid get-over-his-colic thing. Parenting is usually not rocket science, it's just often not fun, and many people of either sex will be happy to let their partner do it all.

Here's a big secret in life: Ask for what you want. Often, others won't offer, but if you ask for something reasonable, you'll get it.

Here's a smaller secret, about how to ask: Start the question with "Are you willing to ...." For some reason, it is harder to say no to "Are you willing to change Homer's diaper?" than "Would you please change Homer's diaper?" or worse yet, "Homer needs a new diaper."

Hang in there. It gets easier. And it changes often.

Answer 5

Men can't understand...because they can't go through it. They can't even imagine going through it. They have nothing to relate it too. The only thing that comes close is when the guy is sick. Would you say being sick is just like being pregnant?

And no matter how 'emotional' you are, you can still use your brain to say or not say something. So if you know it might sound mean for you to say something...maybe you should just not say it.

Don't try to be such a pregnancy victim. You did choose to have the baby, right? You made your decision and now have to live with it.

Answer 6

Amen, don't we all wish that at one time or another. Could you imagine have a man for a mother? There is a reason why only women have babies.

Answer 7

This is why women give birth, not men. Because we can handle it. Jeez, think about that....imagine all we go through, then think of how they would be if they had to be pregnant.....LOL. LOL. Now you know why we have this wonderful position for ourselves.

Answer 8

men and women are different creature.so that's why men can't understand what women go through..but they should understand each other. and no doubt that men should pay a lot attention when women is pregnant.

Answer 9

I don't know, my I had a huge argument, because the sausage he liked to make suddenly stunk to me..and I simply asked him not to make it while I was there..because it made me feel so sick..

Answer 10

i understand some of that stuff. its though on the mentality and emotions of wemon.