I am 17 and my bf is too ...juniors in high school. I was talknig to him one day and came upon the conversation of sexual fantasies....and he told me of some he had (cause I asked him alot) celebrity and non-celebrity....he told me some and told me some actress was pretty and that their was this other actress in particualr that he had like 20 of them. He also told me about some of the girls in his past that he liked but then found out they were "whores" that he had fantasies of. I told him some of "mine"....which is bullshit so I wont feel like bad.......should I feel uneasy that he had so many fantasies about that one actress and he said it with a smile...that it was the most fantasies about her and that the bets one was with her and he said it with a smile?....Should I be bothered?....It was before he was with me and he is a guy and it's just a celebrity so why am I a bit jealous? I want to be good enough to be one of his fantasies but at the same time more than a fantasy?
2007-04-26 16:49:03 · 3 answers · asked by Tina x 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i know how you feel lol, i used to go through that too. i still do, my ex had this huge thing for rosario dawson and i hate her!
but you really cant help it that guys have fantasies with famous people. theyre always running around half naked. truth is, that i cant help but have fantasies about famous men either.
but, if he crosses that bridge and begins to disrespect you by being obvious about his sexual feelings towards women around you then that would be a problem.
and guys that keep large amounts of porn around simply turn me off.
hope this helped a little.
2007-04-26 16:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 aswell.
Guy's brains work way different to how ours work! Guys spend a lot of their time thinking about sex, where as females spend their time thinking about constructive things!
Most guys look at celebrities and they see this perfect woman. She's tall, nice body, pretty face and big boobs. This is unrealistic. A 'normal' woman doesn't look like this. And even the woman in that picture doesn't normally look like she does in that picture.
I don't think you should be bothered. I mean, he could be making them up aswell like you were.
His smile may have even just been his little way of trying to make you jealous.
You have every right to be jealous. Everytime my best friend/boy friend mentions Jessica Alba (who he has a thing for) I get jealous too. Same with him when I mention Heath Ledger. And he hates it, so that sometimes makes me do it more! Haha i'm a b*tch lol.
Maybe you should tell him who your fantasy guy is. See how he reacts.
Or, you could try one of these websites
www.niquehappy.com/uglycelebpics
www.speechlessimages.com/
www.i-am-bored.com/bored_link.cfm?link_id=21682
http://images.google.com/images?q=stars+without+make+up&hl=en&safe=off&client=safari&rls=en&um=1&sa=X&oi=images&ct=title
These are links to websites about stars without make up. You can show him that his fantasy actually looks below average without make up!
I think you should aim to be more than his fantasy. I would be. A fantasy is something that you dream about, then once his fantasy is forfilled he will be no longer interested.
Good luck, email me if you need to!
2007-04-27 00:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is just a fantasy as long as it doesnt become reality there's no need in ruining your relationship
2007-04-27 01:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by miss_chelsea_stone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋